Telling the other man?

Anon Imperfect Mum

Telling the other man?

I've just found out my fiancé has spent the last month having an emotional relationship with another woman (who is also engaged) i found out by accident when I stumbled across numerous "I love you" texts in his phone. Question is - should I tell the other guy involved that his wife to be is emotionally cheating on him?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Are you prepared for backlash towards your husband and possibly you? Are you doing it out of good faith and not to hurt her? If both of these are yes, I would do it because if I was in his position I would appreciate someone telling me.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I've heard stories of this kind of thing not turning out so well for the person that spills the beans. You never know what kind of relationship they have.
having said that I think its unethical to have this information and not do something, I know I would ant o know. As long as at the end of the day you can hold your head high and say you did the right thing then by all means.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

don't involve yourself in their relationship, it's none of your business. The only relationship you need to be worried about at this time is yours

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Anon Imperfect Mum

hmm tough one! If someone knew my husband was doing stuff behind my back i'd wanna know but on the other hand I don't think I would involve myself in someone else's realtionship!!
Good luck whatever you choose to do

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Yes

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I've been in this position. i told the other man. he was grateful, hes now seeing an amazing woman, im not datibg because im not ready, but it was the right thing to do for me.
The cheaters are engaged...

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Anon Imperfect Mum

YES! Don't be afraid to tell the TRUTH, he has a right to know its not fair if it was the other way round I'm sure you'd like the truth.....

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Anon Imperfect Mum

If it was me I would want to know. I believe anyone has a right to know if someone is being unfaithful & I believe anyone who knows but doesn't say anything or turns a blind eye is just as bad as a cheater because to me it makes me believe they condone that sort of behaviour and I would also no longer trust that person.

regardless of how ugly it could get, how would you feel if you found out someone knew your partner was cheating but didn't say anything??

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