With the new year I was hoping for a new start. I have one problem though. This year I left my ex because of his drug addiction, violence and constant lies, as well as suspected cheating. Now I understand that 6 months isn't a great deal of time, but I would like to be able to move on and be happy alone with my kids for a while. To start off with it was relatively easy, I felt good and free but now it's changed and I feel lonely. I can't stop thinking about him or missing him, wondering if I should call him, I know I shouldn't but I can't stop thinking it. So what is the best way to get over an ex? I have already cut contact due to his actions, but I find I am constantly wanting to call or message him when ever something happens, I have no close friends so no one to talk to, I'm lonely and don't like it I normally love my own company. Help!
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Every time you think about calling him look at your children and know you have done the right thing by them in protecting them from violence and drugs. He is not a good role model for your children and you are a wonderful mother for leaving. I wish my mother had left sooner.
Just stay strong!! Don't call him. Keep busy! Do lots of fun things with your kids, go out and meet new people. It's hard this time of year around holidays been alone but you'll be better off alone then with him, keep telling yourself over and over.n
don't call him and go find ways to keep yourself busy and around other people. It will pass and is a normal part of the abuse cycle
Write yourself a letter reminding yourself of everything bad he ever did to hurt you and how it made you feel! Put in there good times you've had since you left him too, to remind yourself that you can be happy. When you feel like calling him read it to remind yourself why you left and not to go back.