I'm 32 weeks pregnant and have only gained 2kg (my doctor is happy with that my baby is growing perfectly) but it gets me down the amount of people who comment how small and cute I am. Thats fine I get that. What really really annoys me is because of my small size every one assumes I dont get tired, I can still sleep all night and pregnancy must be so easy for me and Im so lucky to have it so easy. I suffered morning sickness until 29 weeks and have low iron and a LO who just hit terrible twos also. lm not looking for pitty of any kind but am I right to be annoyed at people who just assume because my belly is small my pregnancy isnt as hard? How or what do I say to them? Has anyone one else had that. I've even cancelled my baby shower (didnt get to have one with my first) because im sick of people and what they say.
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Honestly I'm sure to you it is difficult but I'd rather have had your pregnancy any day! I was huge. I couldn't breath because the baby was pushing on my lungs! And at one point I couldn't pee because it was squashing that part of me. Add to that the morning, noon and night morning sickness to around 30 weeks. So yeah to you your pregnancy may seem difficult but seriously compared to others it's pretty good and be greatful for that.
This is what I mean. Im only small and for my body shape its big for me. But because Im not the size of a house ppl think I dont have pain or get uncomfortable I dont need to rest I dont have issues breathing or need to pee. I can still lift heavy shopping etc. Im greatful that my child comes out healthy and would do anything to make sure of that. I could imagine being bigger would be annoying as hell but I dont get why people think that just because im small my pregnancy is any different. And I have only just stopped spewing daily been in and of hospital for migraines and low sugar. So the size of a belly shouldnt matter.
Just because her tummy is small doesn't mean baby isn't pushing on her lungs or bladder, if anything she's probably carrying more so in her back and experiencing just as much discomfort or possibly more then u! You couldn't possibly compare types of pregnancy based on belly size. I've had a 10lbs baby and a 4lbs baby and both were uncomfortable pregnancies.
Every pregnancy is exhausting and just plain hard! I had morning sickness till I delivered at 34 weeks. I only gained 4 kgs in total. Growing a human is as incredibly difficult as it sounds... Just keep in mind it can only last so long and one way or another the little sucker has to come out :-) Then in a moment it will all be worth it :-)
I had this too. I only gained 12kg and am naturally small I only weighed around 47kg pre baby. I also carried very small too, I looked like i just had a soccer ball under my shirt. People would ask me, 'are you sure you're eating properly?' 'You're so small and tiny', 'pregnancy must be a breeze for you'. It would infuriate me. Meanwhile I was barely getting any sleep, I had excruciating braxton hicks from 18 weeks onwards and I had a torn muscle near my rib that would make me scream when I moved the wrong way. It was great once I had my baby and he was a lot bigger than expected, he weighed very close to 4kg and it was an 'in your face' moment to all the people who said I had it easy.. I'm not sure what you can say to those annoying people but just know, I felt exactly the same way! Xx