Mums, I need help.
I've had ongoing anxiety and depression for many years that worsened after my first child almost 6 years ago. My relationship with her has been strained for years and I fear it is becoming volatile.
I do love her - she is the complete package with brains, beauty and personality. But she can also be so naughty and at times violent. I do think this is her reaction to our mother-daughter bond but there is something about her that just makes it hard for me to be the mother she deserves and that I want to be.
I have struggled with this for a long time and as I look at my relationship with my second daughter, it breaks my heart at how clearly different I am with them individually. I would like to get help but I simply cannot afford a professional. If anyone could suggest blogs, websites, or any info on how I can improve my relationship with my daughter I would greatly appreciate it.
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Have you used your mental health care plan? Some counsellors and psychologists bulk bill.
Yes, I have but the only one close to me charged $200 a visit.
This might sound ridiculous, but I was reading an interview from P!nk (singer) and how she said her mother always took her fierce personality personally. But it was just her. And she wouldn't do that to her daughter. That one sentence has actually changed my relationship with my second daughter. She is stubborn, driven, strong willed and wild. My polar opposite. But it is just HER. I choose now to focus on her positives. She's very self motivated and intelligent and won't let anyone walk over her. She wears me out beyond belief. She fights me constantly. But I think sometimes very special people are difficult to 'manage' when they're younger. I know she'll be an amazing woman. But she's a tiger. Hard to tame. If I let it, her personality could easily drive a wedge between our mother/daughter bond... But her love for everyone in her family is huge. Me especially. I will never push her away because she's more difficult. Focus on all of your daughters positives. Be more affectionate. Force yourself to. Watch it change her. Xxx