I have a 5 year old and an almost 3 year old, both girls.
Their behaviour has been feral lately. The 5 year old has serious attitude, she used to be my sweet little helper.
Tonight while the 3 of us were eating dinner I asked the girls (who were being feral) where they learned that behaviour, and that I hope they didn't behave like that at daycare, nannnys or grandmas. The 5 year old looked at me and said "we are only like this to you, and only when you are bad to us".
Today went Xmas shopping, they struggled to help find things for others and were solely focused on themselves- I thought this was normal within reason because of their ages. They were unimpressed at me not buying them anything (mainly DD5).
We had icecream, had tasters at T2, Maccas for lunch. You get the idea. Busy but lovely day.
So when I heard this come out of my 5 year olds mouth I was fuming. I said "let me tell you about our day, we spent it as a family, ate icecream, bought gifts for those special to us, ate yummy lunch, and you think because I ask you to eat your dinner and wouldn't buy you any toys that I'm BAD." And I walked out of the room while the 2 are their dinner.
I feel like, despite trying my hardest to raise children that have empathy and respect that I may be raising brats. Honestly the behaviour lately is like out of this world.
I'm not a pushover either. I'm quite strict and I always follow through.
They have had items removed of late that they need to earn back etc.
So how do you all handle:
1. Your kids telling you that you are horrible, bad, etc (even though it was quite a good day mind you)
2. Not raise brats?
I hate to label a kid as a brat, but it's the only word that comes to mind right now.
*sigh.
Feeling like crap right now, haters can keep-on-scrolling, only genuine comments please.
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I think it's quite normal for kids to behave brattish at different stages in their lives. I think it's how you manage it that decides if it's going to stick! I think you handled it perfectly. 5 is quite young still and still a very self centered age so don't be surprised if it takes awhile to turn around. I think it gets easier when kids are old enough to learn that they have a pretty good life! I think I told my mum I hated her about 50 times lol I think personally I'd just say it's not my job to be your friend but to raise good kids and I love you anyway.
My son is four and a half and usually so sweet. As of lately his attitude has just changed completely and for some reason now he has an attitude like he's never had before. It took me by surprise when he first started acting out, I couldn't believe my sweet little boy could be capable of such bratty ways. Your kids will tend to say you're bad to them just because they don't get their own way. When I was a kid if I didn't get my way my parents were the worst people in the world. Now I see differently because I'm a parent myself and your kids will one day too. They'll learn as they grow up that being a brat isn't the way to go about things just because everything didn't turn out the way they wanted it to. You're doing everything right and I agree with the poster above. I'd just tell them that no matter what they think of you, you love them anyway and always will.
my 5yr old told me she hated living with me and was gonna go live with her best friend because her mummy buys chewing gum and cordial, and "we never have it" - brattish tone lol, i told her if she didnt like my rules she didnt have to live with me, that i would help her pack her bag and ill drop her off at pops house forever! hahahaha
I laugh about it now, but at the time she really hurt my feelings, and she had been going through a real attitude stage... im hoping like mine, yours is just going through a stage and trying to press your buttons, checking boundaries... your doing good mumma, keep on it, theyll get better xx
Kids are self absorbed at that age. My DSs grand father called him "super brat." The nickname has kinda stuck. But 2-7 is a crap age of egocentric/selfish/brattish time.
Just make sure that you tell them exactly what is expected plus throw in terms about feelings and also about using your words appropriately.
My son at 9 is coming up with terms that are quite rude. I know he is experimenting with words still and they come across as rude and insulting. I have asked him a few times if he knows what xxx means and if he doesn't know he should learn to use his words properly and if he doesnt know the meaning of a word he needs to look it up.
kids are a pain at home because they ferl safe to practice crap. Just set out your rules, explain whats helpful and not, talk about feelings and manners. Etc. It'll get better.
There have been times where I could of written this. Its especially frustrating when you make an effort to give your children a special day and they are unappreciative. Unfortunately I think its normal for for this age bracket to be self centered. I haven't any advice for you sorry!!! But I have some encouragement! You sound like an excellent mum and keep doing what your doing! Your daugters will grow up to be lovely greatful and respectful.
I was doing some christmas shopping the other day and there were kids getting toys for christmas and asked their mum for a toy for now , amd she said yes. Of course my child asked if he could too and I said no because christmas is only x amount of days away and the presents wont be as special if you get presents now too. Well he cracked it and said they have a nice mum!
Lol good ol' 5 year olds.. It's the age I think. She will come around. You sound like a great mum to me!