My brother just ended his relationship with his wife & I'm feeling quite upset about it! I'm sad for them & knowing that she won't be around for family gatherings etc. Plus I'm an Aunt to their children & am sad I probably won't see them as much anymore. I feel like I should tell her I think he's made a mistake & I'm upset to lose her as part
of our family but don't want to seem interfering. Any advice?
Upset about brother's divorce
Upset about brother's divorce
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Why do you have to stop talking to her? Just because they are getting divorced shouldn't stop you from being friends especially if you two are close. It will be good for the kids to
I wouldn't say you think he has made a mistake, but you certainly don't have to stop talking to her. It would probably be a good thing for her to know she hasn't lost you as family too.
You don't have to fall out with her. Offer your support to everyone involved, especially where the kids are concerned.
Unless your brother is an idiot he's not going to deny you the opportunity to keep the friendship you have with his wife. Especially if he's aiming for an amicable break up. She'll need her friends at the moment, more than ever, so commiserate with her and empathise but my advice would be to steer clear of words like "mistake". She doesn't need false hope.
I honestly think that you break up with people, not families and while it won't always be easy, I think you can maintain a friendship and relationship with her. I agree with the comments that urge to reconsider words like mistakes - relationships are very personal things and if people aren't happy sometimes the best thing to do is to separate. I think you should make contact for her and let her know that you hope to be able to stay in contact with her and the kids and hope she's ok and take it from there.