Ok so this is my Dilemma , I recently left a Relationship due to domestic and felt that my children should stay with their father while I found a new job and home well that has all gone pear shaped as he is doing everything he can to keep them Indefinitely going as far as hacking my Facebook not allowing me to have my kids when I want to see them and messing with their heads , homes are hard to come by my new job hasn't started yet I've been cut off from centre link due to tax mess up and ex husbands business none of my doing , now have had to get rid of my animals and my car is about to die what can I do am ready to completely give up
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First step go to mediation so you can start the process if a parenting plan. It sounds like for now the kids are better off residing at the dad's but at least you'd be able to get a set time each week for a day visit.
Don't give up, things can and will get better. Talk to your local housing authority, the salvos, anglicare, basically anyone in your area.
Firstly I want to send you so much love. This is almost exactly what happened to me. I asked my kids dad to look after the kids for a few weeks while I found a house. He made it impossible to get a house by (falsely) claiming I was receiving centrelink payments I shouldn't, centrelink cut all payment while it was being investigated. He then went to court and said I'm homeless, crazy and on drugs. I got a psych assessment and had to do 12 months of councelling and drug tests (all of which were clean). Then he moved over an hour away knowing my husband has a court order that restricts us from moving that far. 3 years on we are still in court and they now say he has had them so long and lives so far away all I get is every second weekend. My advice would be legal aid first, then get psych evaluated, drug tested and anything else you can think of so he can't make the whole thing drag on. The biggest factor is time, the longer he has them the less chance you have of getting them back. And don't ever stop fighting, my kids are now getting to the age that they can see for themselves the stuff dad said about mum isn't true and the only thing stopping me from spending time with them is him. Also find ways to see them that don't involve him, you can volunteer in schools and daycares just don't try and 'take them'. Good luck, stay strong and fight for your kids. Lots of love xx