Hi mums,
I've been thinking about this a lot lately and maybe need someone to slap me out of it...
I have a gorgeous husband with two beautiful children. I'm very lucky and very grateful. I enjoy every minute with my little family.
But... No ones life is perfect. I have pretty horrible in laws, can't really go into too much detail but I am expected to do everything for them... I mean everything. They don't even have a clue how much is in their bank account. I run their business for them. Their decisions havet been the brightest but when they make a mistake I am the one that has to clean it up. I am constantly stressed, to the point I can't hold a conversation as I start worrying about something. If I happen to do something wrong (with my brain it is a lot lately!) they abuse my husband... Call him a piece of sh*t, dumb %*^+ among others. It's gotten to the point where they have started to treat my children horribly as well. This really doesn't even skim the surface but I would be here all day.
My brain is fried. I feel useless. Dumb. And feel like all their problems are caused by me. I feel numb, exhausted and scared! I want to stay in bed and hide.
My husband is everything you could want in a man. I am being told how lucky I am to have him. And I know it.
But I'm not the type to make him choose, but I'm not sure how long I can hold on to my sanity.
I want to ride it out... I want to whether the storm and get to the good times!
4 Replies
Tell your Inlaws you can no longer manage their affairs. Business and family very rearly work out. Hire you Inlaws a book keeper for the books/ accounts side of things and a financial advisor for the money side of things and leave them at it. Yes they maybe upset with you in the short term but they need to understand its best for the families future for everyone to take a step back.
You can no longer do this and should never have been put in that position in the first place. Time for your in laws to stand on their own. Otherwise hubby needs to take over there affairs
Tell them you have had a change of heart and need a career change.
Or get some time off and "stumble" upon another job
Hey there. I had some difficulties with my in-laws too. While they haven't gone away, I'm better able to manage them after reading a book called "Toxic In-Laws". Some great strategies and similar experiences are in the book. Good luck x