Hi IMs
Please no judgement, but latley my partner and i have been fighting constantly, hes stressed at work and doing long hours but is becoming extremly nasty at home, i know thati am not blameless i can nag and be a bitch, my problem is that one of our recent fights i locked my young son in his bedroom because of how we were arguing, not that i think my partner would hurt my son but that i didnt want him to see it. Now the other day my partner decided to call me fat and i should work on it, (im 5 foot 2 and weigh 61kgs, after having our son via csection) i have a tummy and yes i am not a size 6 like before i had my boy so i obviously got extremly upset and cranky. Latley no matter what i cook for dinner he doesn't like and gets cranky about it.. i told him if this behavior continues i wont be sticking around, so i guess im after reassurance, i lovethis man dearly he is my life, but i guess i need to know is this behavior going to continue or is it just because he is stressed?
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It can continue if one or both of you decide not to change your behaviour. It doesn't have to continue it absolutely can change but you have to both make changes. Wether that's in changing work/life balance, learning how to relieve stress in other ways or starting to re connect and really talk like adults rather than children who are trying to attack each other. But deciding you want it to stop but not changing anything will just run things into the ground. Good luck
I can be like your husband. When I am stressed or tired I can be a total Bitch and very nasty and hard to deal with. I usually avoid people when I'm like this. I don't think you should leave him but it's your decision. You should not be expected to put up with that behaviour. Maybe try and show him your serious by moving out. Maybe get him help to manage his stress. Something that works for me is I come home from work and go have a long shower to distress me and transition to home life. Maybe he needs something that can relax and transition him. Good luck