Hi, I think I am writing here as I am looking for some support.
Recently after my I had my n/t ultrasound and blood test done, I got the news that I have a 1 in 52 chance that my baby has Down's syndrome. My baby is growing fine but they gave me a measurement of the neck of 2.4mm. I am 24 and have two perfectly healthy little girls.
I do suffer from depression and as I have been under a lot of stress, my depression has come back. I can not help but blame myself for this, "did I do something wrong?"
I am being referred to the specialist for an amnio, hoping to hear from the doctor next week with an appointment.
Just wanting to hear from some mothers who have been in my position..
Thanks in advanced,
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You have done absolutely nothing wrong. I used to beat myself up about my sons disabilities and I think it's natural to wonder, but I realised after a while it was something I had ZERO control of. That's the same in your case.
It's natural to be down and worried about what the test results will reveal, take it easy on yourself. I remember the waiting for my sons diagnosis (different disorder after birth). I was so sad.
Although I was sad when he was finally diagnosed it was actually a relief too because we could finally get planning on how best to help him going forward.
Whatever the results come out as, you can move forward and be 'in a good place' again.
Hi mummy,
First I want to say thank you for having the courage to ask for support.
I know exactly how your feeling right now. When I got the results from my n/t and bloods I got as result of 1:49 for downs. I also felt guilty and felt as though I must have done something wrong. I also have two healthy children, and suffer depression and have decided to stay on my meds with this pregnancy.
I wasn't going to have the amnio because to me it didn't matter either way but hubby wanted me to get it done so we could be prepared. I had it done, the 2 week wait was the longest time of my life. I felt so alone. Some days I cried all day. If you want to talk let me know id be happy to support you. Let me know if you'd like my email.
I feel so blessed the results came back negative for downs. I'm now 27 weeks and am glad I had the amnio so I can try and enjoy the rest of my pregnancy.
Remember that there is so much support for parents of downs children these days and you won't he alone. I'm here of you need to talk.
You are so strong and I wish you all the luck in the world xoxo