I have an extremely low sex drive due to perimenopause. The thought of sex with my husband is never there, but i will happily use a toy.
I am fit and eat healthy
He has put up with my moods and a lack of sex for a long time. He doesnt push but i feel bad and want to know how others have made it work. I have said no for so long he doesnt even try.
What have other mums done
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if you use toys, you have a sex drive, you just wont have sex with him, you are lying to yourself.
how demoralizing for him, if i were him, id be out the door.
Seriously!!!! How demoralising is all you can come up with for this woman. This isn't about a sex drive as such it's more about being touched out in general. Try being a bit more empathetic and think outside the box on what her actual issue is. Peri women can actually be sensitive to touch in general. This can also be a connection thing as well.
Start with seeing a doctor and getting your hormones balanced first and foremost but honestly this seems more you're not wanting touch than no drive. Have a talk with your husband and even bring in a sex therapist if needed to see what you both can do to bring the spark back. Are you feeling connected to your hubby as sometimes drive can be directly linked to connection. Start with date nights etc to help reconnect to those sexy feelings. Remember what it is about your hubby that you found delicious. Is it his butt or his lips for example. Remember what drove you wild and built from there. Good luck op. You'll find the spark again I'm sure.