Just so I understand, your parents would like you to name your baby after themselves or your grandparent/s but you arent on board with that?
If that's the case I think you just have to say something like "That's a nice idea and I appreciate the suggestion, however I'd like to choose my own name for baby".
If they are being pushy about it (or you're concerned they will not let this go) you'll probably have to be a bit more direct with something like "I have already told you I am choosing my own name for the baby, it's not up for debate. Please respect my decision".
How do you answer your parents when they ask that their grandchildren be named after them?
This should be easy, you just say no we are giving them their own name. But you're here asking, so it must be harder than that. Are they very pushy? Is it a cultural thing? Whatever the reason, this is the perfect time to learn how to put up boundaries and respectfully put people in their place. If you don't do it now you will feel as though you can't do it again later when the next issue comes up. Be clear and say, "No, we are choosing a name for our child." You really don't need to say more than that as that's when the lines get blurred and they think they can reason with you.
My Mum was supposed to name me after her as she was the third generation with that name and they wanted to keep it going, my mum hates it so she didn't. Nan must have been ok because I didn't know anything about it until I was at her funeral when I was 27. She never said anything and loved me all the same. If these people love your child they won't make a big deal out of this.
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Just so I understand, your parents would like you to name your baby after themselves or your grandparent/s but you arent on board with that?
If that's the case I think you just have to say something like "That's a nice idea and I appreciate the suggestion, however I'd like to choose my own name for baby".
If they are being pushy about it (or you're concerned they will not let this go) you'll probably have to be a bit more direct with something like "I have already told you I am choosing my own name for the baby, it's not up for debate. Please respect my decision".
How do you answer your parents when they ask that their grandchildren be named after them?
This should be easy, you just say no we are giving them their own name. But you're here asking, so it must be harder than that. Are they very pushy? Is it a cultural thing? Whatever the reason, this is the perfect time to learn how to put up boundaries and respectfully put people in their place. If you don't do it now you will feel as though you can't do it again later when the next issue comes up. Be clear and say, "No, we are choosing a name for our child." You really don't need to say more than that as that's when the lines get blurred and they think they can reason with you.
My Mum was supposed to name me after her as she was the third generation with that name and they wanted to keep it going, my mum hates it so she didn't. Nan must have been ok because I didn't know anything about it until I was at her funeral when I was 27. She never said anything and loved me all the same. If these people love your child they won't make a big deal out of this.