Hey mummies,
Im not sure where to start or what my question is but my hubby and i have an 18 month old and weve recently bought a home.. the last few weeks hubby has been cranky all the time.. i know he is over worked but hes taking it out on us.. today he lost the plot and thew his phone so now its broken :/ hes told me i need to pay to get it fixed because im the rreason why its broken.. i tried to sit down and talk to him about whats going on and he keeps saying i need to get the phone fixed (this was this arvo that all this has happened) i told him we need to sort our relationship issues out and to stop thinking about the damn phone.. we aren't talking now. . I dont know how to fix it if he isnt willing to sit down with me and work it out together. . Im sorry for the drama but im at a loss..
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Do not fix the phone. Do not let him take or use yours. Do not accept that 'you made him do it'. Yes crack the shits until he can come to you & explain that he understands he chose what he did & takes proper responsibility. And takes steps to make sure it will never happen again. If he cant then you have a serious problem.
My twatty ex did this with the tv remote. Then took the spare from me to use it upstairs. Obviously things got much worse with him over time, even though i thought id ironed it out at each incident. All i can advise is to Make sure there are zero repeat incidents. You cant threaten him, or punish him into it. He either will or he wont, all you can do us refuse to accept it.
What you saying makes sense. And yeah it's ok for him to be a bit grumpy and stressed but it sounds like he is behaving like a two year old and really there is nothing you could do that should lead to him throwing his phone.
Let him cool off and talk to him later about what is going on.
Draw a line in the sand in your mind about where things are crossing the line. This sort of behaviour can be the start of domestic violence. So keep your eyes open and don't let the red flags go unnoticed.