I lack motivation and I'm depressed
Iv had a really ruff couple of years. I know I'm depressed. But there is not openings where I am right now, so I'm on several waiting lists to see specialists.
All I do is read, eat and sleep. I can sleep for 18hrs, get up eat, read and be back in bed for another 18 if you let me. If I'm not sleeping, I'll sit and read for hours, lost in my fantasy world. I zone out. My hubby can be chatting away, and I'll be looking right through him, and not a single word sinks in. My house is falling apart. He's angry because he works his ass off and I'm at home sleeping to avoid life. I feel utterly like I just don't care anymore, and I feel so selfish about it but I just don't want to think about it
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Try to achieve something everyday. Just one thing.
Look at online and telehealth services
You really don't need to wait for specialists to treat depression, a gp can prescribe antidepressants. You can also try and do things at home. I had a mental breakdown 3 years ago that lasted 6 weeks, then I went into a deep depression that lasted a year. Over the last year I have slowly been getting better, I've decided against meds because they make me feel great for a little while then plateau into this non emotional blob with no sex drive, which is no better than being depressed. So I'm determined to get out of this the hard way so I can stay on top of my mental health long term instead of being reliant on meds but not changing anything about my life.
Things I'm doing:
Giving myself purpose - Studying at Tafe (this could also be volunteering, a non stressful job)
Looking after myself - I've made changes to my diet that contributed to feeling exhausted for no reason, like sugary drinks and lactose. I also exercise now, even if its just 5 minutes I try and do it every day.
Joined a group - I joined a book club. I don't even read that much, I just joined to make friends and it makes me feel like I have a social life haha.
Limited social media/technology -
I don't sit on it all day every day like I did before.
Had a check up - I was kind of forced into this one but had my bloods done and checked for deficiencies, hormone levels, organs and whatever else they do. If your hormones are out of whack it can make you feel terrible so can a lot of other things.
Diary - Vent in a diary, I found that I dwell on negative things even years later, if I get it all out on paper I feel better.
Routine - As you would know this is the hardest thing to do when you have depression and I haven't quite got there yet but small goals, I wake up at the same time every day and have dinner at the same time every night.
I have a feeling this woman is actually bipolar, not depressed, she writes in a lot. So she def shouldn't be on antidepressants from the gp, she def needs to wait and see psych. I agree with everything else you said though, I've been through similar.
Ahh ok, yes thought it was strange to be made to wait and see specialists. That being said you would think they can fast track the meds while waiting.
i think she's on meds, but clearly needs a review.
having been in her position, i think she needs a job, something that she has to get up to everyday, even part time.
she needs structure and routine.
she has too much time on her hands, she needs to be busy, have a distraction.
she also complains often about her partner, how he never listens to her (the irony), doesnt fck her like in the romance novels etc.
as i said, she needs something to occupy her time and im sure they could use the extra cash, plus i think it would take the burden off her partner, if she had a life outside of him.
but some people would rather complain for years than make changes to better themselves.
Don’t wait for a specialist, go to a regular doctor and get antidepressants to start on immediately. Also get a blood test for Iron, Vitamin B & D levels etc. ring and make the Appt NOW!!