I think I know the answer to this but I guess I just need someone to give me the push I need.
Been with my partner almost 12 months.
He was prior to me joint other couples for sex.
I am not into this however did try once for his sake. I didn’t like it at all. I’ve made it clear that I don’t want a relationship like that. He still talks to a couple he has been with and until recently another two women he has slept with. He did ask one of those women (unbeknown to me) to join us in the bedroom. When I found out I flatly refused.
Now he is saying the excitement is gone because he also wants me to “dress sexy”. I don’t particularly like g-strings so he buys them for me. He also pressures me to sleep naked which I don’t like. When I don’t do these things he doesn’t talk to me for days and tells me we aren’t on the same page.
He now hasn’t spoken to me for 2 x days and I can’t eat or sleep. I feel so sick. I feel I deserve better and I would never dream of telling him what to wear
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Please. End. It.
You deserve so much better. I have no issues with someone still talking to someone they've slept with in the past. I'm friends with exes and I've been happily married for many years.... But it needs to be that the relationship changed and is now only a friendship (on both sides)! This sounds like he wants a lifestyle that you don't and that his doesn't respect you when you voice what you do want. That isn't a healthy relationship and if you don't have that now, you never will. Find someone who respects you as you deserve
He doesn't respect your boundaries at all, and it will only get worse.
Dump him, he's a creep
You guys aren't on the same page. You are wanting/needing different things and that's OK, this is what dating is for - to see if we are compatible with another person and you guys aren't.
Don't waste any more time and end this relationship. I'm proud of you for sticking to your boundaries and not being pressured by him.
RED FLAG - leave. He is not worth your time and energy if he wants to change who you ae.
PLEASE end things. He doesn’t respect you. And no matter how many times you tell him how you feel he won’t change. Do you want to put up with this crap forever? No, you dont. So don’t wait any longer. You deserve to be treated like a queen, not a slave to his demands.
Get out!!! So many red flags! Please leave, this is more than likely to turn into domestic violence of you.
He has already showed you a part of his true self by making you do things you don't want to do. That's already a form of DV.
Please leave for your own safety