Hi everyone
I have been with my partner for a really long time. We are married with 3 kids. He was my first.
Our sex life sucks. I feel like he is a wham bam thank you mam lover. I am literally never satisfied. He never cares that I never have an orgasm.
I am not an overly sexual person but he doesn't seem to bring it out in me either because I am always left unsatisfied.
This sounds silly but it wasn't until I started reading romance novels that I feel like I am missing out on better sex. He is all I have ever known.
I don't know how to approach this with him.
I just can't be bothered even having sex because I know i don't get anything from it.
Has anyone ever been in this position or have any advice?
We have a good relationship otherwise.
Tia :)
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I think this takes a conversation or else some well placed content for him to read 😆 I would maybe mention some of the things you have been reading and that you would like to try them out. I bet he listens intently. Does not have to be a conversation about what he is doing wrong, rather a conversation about what you would like to try ;)
My sex life with my ex husband was dismal too. We could go months without anything because I felt he was never into me and never satisfied me either. My new partner ALWAYS satisfies me. Tell your husband he needs to step up his game. Talk to him about what you want. It’s a big part of a relationship.
I hear ya sista. I never wanted to have sex for the same reason. Although the last year has been a little different. Maybe 1 out of 4 times i orgasim. So i know what you mean about not wanting to because you get nothing out of it. I started taking Macca & that changed things a little. I never used to get aroused. Even when he took his time. It was a chore. Macca made it feel more enjoyable for me, i would not necessarily orgasim but it felt good. Now for some reason it seams like he actually cares if i do. Sex is better but not every time. Not sure this is helpful but your not alone. Maybe go to a chemist & get yourself some Macca & see how you go. Good luck xx
I’m never scared to tell my partner what I want. He is easily satisfied but, I make him still do things to me even if he’s finished. While we don’t have an amazing sex life like we once did, due to life and kids, when we do have sex it’s meaningful and satisfying. Like recently he wanted a quick minute, I said no, I’m in the mood to be touched and to go slow. Ha, we were both exhausted the next morning but, it was fun at the time. So tell him what you want, tell him how you want to use him for your pleasure, introduce toys, lingerie, indulge in self pleasure. Have fun and laugh.