My sister is on the verge of a nervous break down, and she refuses to get help.
I had a nervous breakdown several years ago, I'm still recovering. Honestly, I don't think it's something you fully recover from.
Our mother past 4 months ago. Along with her other life struggles, she's falling apart. I didn't quite realize how bad it was until I visited her last week. She completely broke in front of me, and by the end she was a babbling mess. I see all the signs and iv begged her to seek help. But she won't. She's suffered depression on and off her entire life. I called her favorite aunt, who is a nurse and she's trying to talk her into seeing a Dr.
Should I press the issue at all? I wish some one got in my face about it and made me seek help, see what was really happening to me.
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Keep checking in and encouraging her to see her gp even offer to go with her. Reassure her there’s light at the end of the tunnel
I would just encourage her to talk to someone. Make sure you do not catastrophise and instead normalise some of the experiences of grief for her. Four months is not a long time at all. 'Losing it' and feeling safe enough with someone to be able to express it, is so very important. I went mute, as in I could not speak about it at all. It has taken me around two years each time I have lost someone to feel able to start to process it.
Sometimes when you feel like your life is out of control, you need people around who ground you. I would simply tell her how much talking to someone has helped you. Focus on the grief as the primary reason as no doubt the other stuff will come up too. You could also see if there are any grief support groups and suggest going together, express that you do not want to go alone rather than just making it about her.
Really this is entirely her journey, if you push too hard she may retreat. Also she may feel like she is going a little crazy, so she does not need to hear it. She needs more of the normalising experience, grounding and support. One of the biggest factors in someone being able to heal from trauma is the support network they have around them. So just be there for her and let her know you are.
So sorry for your loss ❤