For years, I feel iv lost my "sexy", so this has made me feel some what, desirable.
Lately, there's been this rather attractive man in town, who apparently iv caught the eye of, well, atleast I think I have... no I'm not about to cheat on hubby, but I sure as hell not gonna ignore the attention. He's everything I find attractive in a man, built but not overly muscle. Tattoos, 9o'clock shadow, messy "i just got out of bed" hair... I'm just shy of 100kg, 5"5, tattoo, and lately, I look like an exhausted house wife who dresses in what she finds on the floor.
We've never talked, or been any closer then a few meters apart.
I didn't really notice until a friend pointed it out a few times. He smiles, turns back when he walks past, sly Crooked grin. I kept thinking nothing of it, until 2 days ago, when he picked the register I was in line of, standing right behind me. I was dressed in baggy jeans too big for me, and a stained jumper, hair in a messy bun. I didn't notice he was there until I turned to the kids to tell them to follow me. What did I see.... him looking me up and down, a half smile and him biting his lower lip.... what I'd call, "eye f'ing" me. When he realised i was watching, he actuelly blushed...It was this that made me realise he was infact perving all those times I felt like I was imagining it.
It's been a long time since any one made me feel attractive. My partner is always commenting on how I no longer put effort into how I look any more. When I do, all I get is a "what are you all dressed up for" but that's about as close as it gets to a compliment. I know my partner loves me, he can't keep his hands off me. He practically sleep on top of me, some times he's holding my hand in his sleep. But I'm not gonna lie, this attention, made my day. So why do I feel guilty
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To be honest this post triggered me a bit because I was accused of stalking and fancying someone in town. I hadn't taken any notice of him! Apparently I was giving him CFM eyes?? And being in the shop with him a lot? His friend was the one who told him and this guys wife confronted me. I don't even notice people when I'm in town because I'm just trying to get my shit done and go home. It really rattled me. I used to live in a small town so I'd see the same people at the shops a lot but I've now moved to the city so that never happens thank God. I wouldn't read too much into it at this stage.
Its more that it made me feel good, nice.... like I was somewhat tempting even looking like a hobo on laundry day haha.
Bit of wishful thinking maybe?
"But I sure as hell not gonna ignore the attention..."
What does that even mean? Seriously, you aren't single.
Sounds like he sees you as an easy target for some "secret" fun and your reactions probably scream desperate and starved of love.
Men who makes eyes at taken women are after one thing.
I just want to add, I'm sure you're an attractive woman, I'm not saying you're not.
Just that if he knows you're taken, he is a sleazy, sneaky man.
He's looking for one thing. He's likely targeting women who have forgotten they are beautiful and sexy and have given up on trying to look good & self care, hoping some will be tempted to bite.
So use it to your advantage! Take the sexy feeling home. It sounds like you have a partner who loves you.
Yuck, 100kg. I highly doubt he's into you. It's all in your own head 🤣
Wow, that's taking it a step far, how rude.
If it's not bad enough having men critique our weight, we have women like you too.
I used to think like you until i left high school and started going out and then working as a barmaid myself, there are so many men that like bigger ladies. If I could put money on who would score at the end of a night its definitely the ladies with big bums and boobs. White Australian men are the only ones that like skinny women.
What would you expect of your partner if the same happened to him?