I've been with this man 3.5 years. Sex has been very vanilla. When going down on him he likes to hold the back of my head and get a little aggressive. 3 years into seeing him I said enough I don't like it and I'm not doing it anymore.
He doesn't ever go down on me, ever. (Past partners always did, so I miss it alot)
Now his having ED he pretty much begs me and I say no you don't go down on me. He responds with that's different.
His not open to talking about it, so how do I talk to him about it?
I feel like this could possibly be a deal breaker for me, I have a very high sex drive and sex is once a fortnight. We don't live together.
How do I talk to him?
How do I talk to him?
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It’s be a dealbreaker for me, I don’t like anything he does or says. How to talk to him? Stop putting up with his shit for three years before you say something. Say it firmly and also tell him begging is not allowed, it shows he hasn’t listened or respected what you’ve said. If he continues, leave him.
My ex never went down on me for 8 years and then something clicked in his head. I also never went down on him because I wasn't giving what I didn't get.
Has he said why he won't go down on you? Or is he just selfish?
I would be having a talk and saying if you want too receive you need too give.
Not being able to communicate regarding sexual needs and feel I’m being respected in that area is a deal breaker for me.
I’d suggest an open relationship if he isn’t open to meeting your sexual needs, but is meeting your other needs. However I’d say communication and respect are other key needs and it appears they are not being met either. Life’s too short to be with a partner who you can’t discuss things openly and comfortably with.
I don’t expect a partner to do something they really don’t like. But they must be respectful in turn. Sounds like this partner isn’t.
I couldn't be with someone so selfish in the bedroom. My husband goes down on me more than I do him. He always makes sure I am satisfied before he finishes.
So it is okay for you to blow him every time but you never get the same. No thank you