Sorry if this is TMI....
Last night my partner told me to 'come here' in bed, so I went over and cuddled him.
I really wasn't in the mood for sex, but I knew this is what he wanted.
After a while, I said ok well goodnight, and moved over to my side.
He got a bit huffy so I asked what was wrong.
He said I NEVER initiate sex.
So I went over and did ALL the work, he actually didn't touch me at all.
He seriously just laid there while I did everything.
Then he wonders why I don't want sex?
All the passion is gone, and when I bring up what I want, he gets frustrated.
I feel like I'm asking too much all the time.
Frustrated with my sex life
Frustrated with my sex life
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I can't imagine having one-sided sex like that, never done it, yuk.
Your relationship sounds dysfunctional, are there issues in other areas?
If you told him you just didn’t feel sexy, what would he say? Maybe he’s worried that you don’t want him because he’s not good enough. Maybe he doesn’t like feeling criticised and gets defensive. Maybe he’s a jerk. Unfortunately the only way to find out is to open yourself up and see what happens.
First, what a d*ck for not touching you at all! Very selfish of him! And he played you by having a hissy fit because you basically said no to having sex with him. Don't give it to him if you don't feel like it!!
Maybe take some time out with him and tell him exactly how you feel about it or maybe you need marriage counselling to help as well. Honestly some men are very very simple minded... they need to be told what you want.
When you're ready or when you have sex next time, during it, tell him exactly what you want him to do~ Touch me here, suck this, tickle that, be in charge of what you want and makes you happy. If he doesn't do it, stop and go have a shower or something to initiate that break. And go to sleep as normal. If you don't get what you want then neither does he!!
Good luck honey xx