My partner has sleep apnea. To describe the noise he makes with this would not do it justice. I suffer from chronic migraines and chronic fatigue and a heart condition. He refuses to use his machine (and they are quite loud too). So, he falls asleep, then the noise starts and I try to doze off and I keep bashing my head on the bed head in a startle reflex to the loud noise (everyone else in our house is suffering too). I then get a migraine and start vomiting which sets off my tachycardia. This means I’ve had little to no sleep and in extreme discomfort and pain. I try to move and sleep somewhere else but he then wakes and follows me and gets angry at me and then proceeds to fall asleep there and the cycle begins again. This keeps happening every night. I’m now falling asleep during the day when I need to be awake. He can’t see a problem and won’t discuss it. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care about my health needs. I need my sleep. Would your partner respect your health needs enough to move to the spare room if it became too much?
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It's not about moving to the spare room is it?... You've tried that and he follows you. He's disrespecting everyone in the household.
Have you tried recording him and playing it back? Can others in the household say something?
Can he get a new machine? - the newer models are quieter
Can you put a lock on the spare room door and move in there and lock it so he can't follow you like a 2 year old?
My husband has sleep apnoea and uses his machine. But he only started taking it seriously when his doctor said he could die... He's since had a heart attack and he even uses it for daytime naps now...
I haven't slept in his room for years. I work hard and need my sleep.
You need to lay it out flat in the middle of the day.
He uses his mask or he sleeps in another room (why should you suffer??)
If he doesn't use the mask, one of you will die from lack of sleep.
Can you go to a motel for a few nights so he knows you're serious?
I would literally leave him if he kept on with this bullshit, that's how much I value my sleep 😂
My partner respects it without the major health issues. If he can't sleep, is sick, wants to watch TV after I've gone to bed ect.. He will stay out in the couch as to not wake me up. It's one thing to not like using it, but preventing you to move so you can get sleep because you need it for not only your health but sanity is borderline narrsasitic and extremely selfish. Makes me wonder what other self entitled moves he makes around you all. I honestly would get to the point of leaving if he can't take you seriously.. as extreme as it sounds.