So kids dad and I arent together anymore.. I have the kids 100% in my care only according to centrelink and child support... no custody orders in place or anything... kids dad thinks he doesnt get paid to be a father so shouldnt have to do things with the kids such as discipline them if he saw them etc just wants to be the fun dad... now he and his mother think that because I have the kids 100% and get all benefits for them he doesnt have to pay child support or any of their school fees and anything else the kids do.... apparently because i have the kids I have to 100% support them... he does not work, has no intentions and literally doesnt even want to get centrelink benefits so i get absolutely nothing... also wants me to pay him out asap for all of our assets we do have yet i havent even got my two feet on the floor yet as he didnt sign my paper work purely so i 'didnt get any centrelink'... What are some other peoples opinions on this...
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Sounds like you made a wonderful decision to end it. What a poor excuse for a father and a grandmother, it's all just very petty. Put him on CSA collect even though he's not earning anything, you will still get what's owed when he does tax or when he does decide to get a job. Ignore him about paying him out make him take you to court. Then rise above it, don't fall into the trap of being angry it just keeps you stuck in a toxic relationship with him even though you've split. You're better than this petty crap and so are your kids.
I wouldn't wait for him to take her to court about assets, that's a bit unfair and the lawyers are the winners.
I would consult a lawyer to see what I'm entitled to (if they have a lot) and see if they can come to an agreement.
You can't just sit on all the assets indefinitely, also means she can't move on with her life.
I guess it would depend on what it is, I assume its not property going by his attitude to work and no mention of house. Some people only have house contents and that was the case for me, my ex tried to be petty wanting me to pay him for things he had bought even though I had the kids fulltime and it was things needed for them like fridge, washing machine, furniture. Theres assets then theres just pettiness and greed and I think he falls into the latter. But of course if there's property or anything else of real value get it sorted asap, if not I wouldn't be in a hurry when she's not even got centrelink sorted yet thanks to him.
You need to divide the assets ASAP, whether you have an agreement or are going to consult a solicitor, get the ball rolling.
You both can't relax and move on whilst you are living in the family home on borrowed time.
As for CS, as the other commentor said, do it through the agency, even if you don't get anything at the moment.
Separate finances asap. Sort the amount, pay it, be done. No visits until he organised an order, routine that he sticks to, if not, no he can’t swan in and out, say no, and cut contact because you actually have no need to be in contact with him, you’re not coparenting. Get dept families to collect child support, so if he doesn’t pay they know and it doesn’t affect you.
Just go though CSA to avoid arguments. You may not get much but at least you can organise your finances accordingly. Have them collect on your behalf. Don’t do private collect. And last but not least don’t agree to anything hastily where assets are concerned. Speak with a lawyer and see what you are entitled to. Sounds to me like he’d be happy if you walked away with nothing and he’s shirking all responsibility. Not OK…