Help. What’s wrong with me?!!
I’ve been dating an awesome man for 6 months. Met him about 10 months ago. We were friends. I had not long gotten out of a 2 year relationship and wasn’t ready to start something. He was amazing and we just stayed friends until I was ready for more (well thought I was) he’s absolutely amazing with my kids. They just love him and he’s so so great with them. Better and more interactive than their own father. He’s not like the usual men I date. He’s complete opposite. We get on very well. We can talk about anything and I know he won’t ever judge me. He’s a real sweetheart. He encourages me to do all the things that make me happy. I can see a future with him. My family love him too. He’s kind of the ‘perfect guy’.
Yet I can’t seem to be fully in love with him. I don’t have the heart flutter like I did with my ex. I loved him very much and had great sexual attraction etc. we broke up because my kids weren’t overly fond of him and he lived several hours away and it was just getting too much. With neither of us able to move for at least a few more years. So it wasn’t ended from the love being gone. I think about him now and I still feel flutters and I feel a bit empty that he’s gone.
This isn’t fair on my new partner. I’ve not told him this. I don’t want to upset him. But I don’t know what to do. This guy is perfect like I said. So why can’t I have the tingly feelings too?? What is wrong with me
What’s wrong with me?!!
What’s wrong with me?!!
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No one if perfect, please be careful of him around your children. You seem blindsided by his perfectness. I think you need to let him go and get back with your ex if you don’t have that attraction. Don’t ever leave your kids alone with this new man. The words perfect just don’t sit right with me and him being around your kids. Sometimes perfect is an act. Just be cautious.
Six months in a relationship is very early to have introduced your children, especially if you don’t have full feelings for him. I would be open and upfront with him, it’s not fair on the poor guy who clearly wants you in his life. You can’t be one foot in and one foot out, be honest with yourself in the first instance, no one wants to be the runner up or B list.
It's not fair to her kids either
Did you really break up because of the distance or were you doing all the travelling and it was one-sided?
Sometimes we are attracted to aholes, the ones who don't return our love.
Then we meet a good guy who we don't have to work for to get the love we deserve and we are put off.
Either way, let this guy go and sort through any issues you may have from the last relationship.
In my experience, long distance works if both partners equally put into and value the relationship.
Also, stop saying this guy is perfect, you're in the honeymoon phase, be cautious, no-one is perfect.
Because you didn’t pursue this one, you weren’t over your ex and he was just there. He can be all kinds of magical, but that doesn’t mean he’s right for you. It’s ok to be single.
I'm confused.
Your kids have a father, which you've left.
You recent ex isn't their father and you broke up with him after 2 years because the kids didn't like him.
Guy number 3 is amazing and a better father to them then their biological father.
Look, no one is perfect except your kids who are perfectly available to your boyfriends by the sounds of things. It's OK to not introduce them. They were just involved for 2 years with your ex boyfriend and now you're all tingles with a new one who is apparently perfect...
Please becareful.