My energy has completely gone.
I have nothing left in my tank.
For 18 months I have been in and out of court with my narcissistic ex. It's been literally hell on earth. He tracked down my first ex, my daughters dad and let him know where we were living and he has come down to our new town (we have started a new life due to dv) when I say hell on earth I really mean it
Im a full time solo mum. My daughter is 7 and his disability and is hearing impaired. It requires many appointments.
I work a 9-5 job 5 days a week. I need the money for us.
This month I've had 3 days of court and barrister meeting. My daughter was admitted to hospital over night and for 2 days. I've had my wisdom teeth pulled out. And my dog has needed surgery too.
I have an amazing father and step mum who help so much with my daughter.
But I am drained. I feel so tired I it's an effort to lift my arms. My body hurts.
I can't keep up with my house work let alone mowing my lawns.
How do I get my energy back. My strength. My happiness.
My cup is bone dry
What should I be adding in my daily routine before i completely crash and cant get off the floor.
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I know your story, why are you in court with the most recent crazy ex?
Wasn't he just a bf for a little while and you didn't have kids.
He was a teacher wasn't he?
What are you fighting about in court?
Sorry it has ended this way and your other ex is back.
It is possible to agree to whatever he wants in court, assuming he's not after money?
That way you can move on.
Thank you for remembering my story.
He was my bf for 15 months. Which is exactly what I am telling the courts. He is just an ex no kids no property etc together. I want out. The police took an IVO out when he broke into my house one night to get to me.
He then counter ordered me for parking my car near his house every arvo. He lives near my daughters school I have no choice but to park in his area..
I moved house. And then I saw him driving past my new place. In the sip lane, very slowly looking up my drive. It freaked me out. How did he know this.
He has tried to make a deal where he has a 3 year IVO on me and he has 0 years and walks. My barrister said I cant w to that. He will spend his 3 years trying to breach me. He has already called DHHS to check up on me. Can't prove is him but who else.
If he has no order im scared of what he will do to me and my daughter.
He invited my daughters dad down. He is "buddies " with him now. It's a weird crazy game to him. Had no contact for 8 years
This man kept coming into my work place. He obviously isn't aloud. I had had enough and let the police know to tell him to stay away.
And then I lost my job over it! He harrased my boss saying I broke his privacy and I had to resign. He then breached me for ruining his privacy (health carrier) and the police are trying to charge me now for breaching him. Its a joke. It's soul crushing
I picked up a new job. A better one. Im happier. But this man won't back down.
He isn't a teacher any more that I know of. There has been a massive investigation done on him. What he did to my daughter was just the cherry on the cake.
It's messy now and out of my hands but I'm still in the middle of it
On top of all my daughter health and now mine I'm just so tired 😞
Try and get some sleep. When you have to put in big hours for any challenge - good nutrition and sleep are the cornerstones to resilience. If you can afford a weekly cleaner &/or a mower man do it. Even if you earn the same as you pay them, it's a fair swap for sanity and one less responsibility.
I know how you feel and I am where you are now. Sleep, eating right, and just breathing is all I can do right now until I can take stock. Just want to let you know it will take time but your not alone and it will get better. Stuff the lawns- they can stay a little longer
Join some Facebook groups for support for survivors of narcissists. Also look for a counsellor. Nova Gibson is fantastic. She is an authority on narcissistic abuse and recovery. She does telehealth appointments too. Her Facebook page is also a great resource.
Other than that I dont know. I'm still suffering from the burn out years later. I know how you feel oxox