Hi mums
How can I stop picking abusive partners that hurt me to my core? What am i doing?
All I want is to settle, love and happiness... i always care and end up hurt while they dont care. I dont understand. why do I seem to attract this. They never can communicate at all.
They have all been different types of people so I don't understand... :(
I am so sad after being name called all night and now ignored.
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It’s not just you, it’s the norm these days. You are better than that. You need to put your walls up higher. Don’t sleep with them for some time, until you get respect and treated how you deserve to be treated. Suss them out and if they aren’t any good, don’t even go there. Make them wait and make them chase you. If they don’t then you know that they aren’t worth it. What kind of scum would call you names, seriously get rid of him. Stand up for yourself and don’t take crap. Tell him you deserve better and you don’t want to see him again. Only you can control this. Don’t feel sad, be happy that you know what he’s like and don’t need to waste anymore time on him. You are too good for him. Remember that!
Honestly, might sound harsh but, it's most likely a combination of your picker is off so you fail to cut them loose when the red flags start to appear and you so desperately want a relationship, you ignore what you shouldn't.
Get counselling and be single for a bit.
Everyone attracts toxic people, they aren't indiscriminate, it's just that you allow them in and let them stay too long.