I want to leave my fiance. We've been together 5 years, have 4 kids together(one of which is ours together) but I'm miserable and have been that way for a while. I've tried talking to him, I have literally said the words "I am not doing okay" a couple times and he just ignores it. He's never physically violent but mentally and emotionally and to an extent financially he is abusive. He speaks so aggressively, he gets mad all the time, he's condescending, treats me like I'm stupid
Doesn't lift a single finger when he's home, he does nothing with his kids, he barely speaks to them and I'm just stuck.
I don't know how to leave, I don't know if I can handle the lashback, he's going to cry and then get nasty and it I know it's all going to be very unpleasant. I mean, I know the process obviously, but does 1 be ready for that.
Relationship problems
Relationship problems
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I would seek out free DV counselling, our local neighbourhood centre had this service or call 1800RESPECT. Also Social worker at Centrelink if needed.
I found the DV counselling helped me become strong enough to leave. I was not beforehand and just felt scared all the time.
You leave and don’t allow him to contact you. Put something in place for him to see your child in someone else’s care so you don’t need contact with him. If he can’t contact you, he can’t get to you. Leave a note for him. Explaining its over and he can see his child in time when you have things in place but until then, leave you be and don’t contact you. Block him off!
Get help from a women's shelter. They usually have a lot of resources available.