Just over a year ago, I met the love of my life, we were both separated after long marriages and things just clicked beautifully, it caught me by surprise. But we live 3 hours apart and the distance was hard and eventually he pulled away. I was devastated, we had forward plans and spoke about our commitment to making it work at least until one of us were able to relocate which was also on the cards. He just very sadly disappeared out of my life.
Just recently, he has reappeared with random text messages saying how much he misses me, calls me ‘babe’ and asks how I’m going. But then he disappears again and goes quiet, won’t pick up the phone to speak to me or attempt to see me. I was explaining my heartache and frustration to a friend and she told me it was ‘breadcrumbing’, that is putting little bits out there to hook me in but then leaving me hanging.
Does this happen to others? Part of me wants to block his number, but I wanted him in my life, I think about him constantly and he’s obviously thinking of me but not enough to change things, I find it quite an awful feeling and difficult to move on.
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Red flags! As much as it hurts, you need to block his number and never hear from him again. Ignore anything from him and if he ever turns up don’t open your door. No contact with someone like this. He obviously has another life with someone else and fits you into his life when it suits him or around his other partner or kids. Don’t do this to yourself. Block him off for good! He’s playing you.
I don't believe that is what bread crumbing is, I think its done before you're in a relationship, not when you are already in one. In my experience, guys that do this are seeing other people and only come back to you when it hasn't worked out with someone else. You're the backup, the just in case I don't find someone else. I wouldn't bother with him anymore
Yes, it’s happened to me.
He is not into you. He messages you when he needs his ego needs stroking and he is bored/lonely.
He likes knowing that you are into him and that you will tale the bait, but he actually doesn’t want you.
He likes the idea of getting serious with someone, but it’s not you. He will meet someone else who he actually wants to be with eventually and you’ll never hear from him again, until they have a fight!
Block him, someone who loves and respects you wouldn’t treat you this way.
Yes she’s right. He’s bored, and non committal, just playing with you. He’s setting the bar low so he can say well I never promised anything. Save yourself and boot him.
Move on he’s not interested in you, he’s using you to stroke his ego!
It's a thing.
Block him. Don't put up with that. Your time is valuable.
Here's a tip, a man that wants you will stop at nothing to have you.
Not play these weak-minded, piss-ant games you're experiencing.
Back yourself. RESPECT yourself.
Write back "fuck off", block socials, phone number etc and step on.