How do I tell my partner of 3.5 years that i want to leave.
He's always having a pick at my 16 year old son, to the point he wants to catch a bus to stay with his dad because he feels it's a negative energy here.
The past almost year we have been in separate rooms and had sex once. He drinks wayyy too much, and gets overly opinionated to the point where we can't even have a normal conversation.
I'm Just not happy. I know there's more to life than work and pub, which is his life. I want more for me and my boy. He shouldn't have to put up with a negative a hole.
I guess it's hard because of the shortage of rentals, and also because I'm waiting for shite to build to a suitable point where I go, yep, that's it! We also have a lease together. Be kind please.
How do I leave a relationship I'm not happy with
How do I leave a relationship I'm not happy with
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Put your boy first and leave. Find somewhere to go. Call the real estate and have your name take off or ask him to leave and have his name taken off. Find somewhere else to stay for now. Don’t hold back else you will lose your son. I think you should ask him to leave. It will be easier for him to find somewhere else to stay. This will be affecting your boy. Someone who isn’t even his dad. This isn’t fair on him, he’s had no choice in this and only you can change it Mumma.
I've asked him to leave. He refuses. So its up to me. I agree, I feel so bad for my son. He doesn't deserve this, he's such a sweet good boy I'm so lucky.
If he won’t leave then you are best to pack your things and go and stay somewhere until you can get on your feet and find a place. You can’t live like that. Sit your son down and explain to him that you are going to leave, you just need to work out how you can afford it etc. I’d go and stay with family or a friend just to be gone from him.
You don’t have to wait for shit to be worse. It’s ok to say, this isn’t what I want. And trust me, what you’ve said is so bad already. You just call it off, it’s not serving you, actually staying is damaging you and your relationship with your son.
You’re waiting for shit to build to a suitable point before you leave… but I wonder if your son already feels it’s at that suitable point? Your son should be your priority and he’s at the point of leaving to his Dad’s house.
It’s time to go.
You don’t need to have a huge argument to say ‘I’m done and I’m leaving’.
Don’t tell him. You’ve asked him to leave and he won’t, so tell him that you are leaving and go. Once you are our ring the real estate and go from there.
I would 100% let my son go to his fathers while I got this sorted. I would also be apologising to him and letting him know you’re sorry he needs to go stay somewhere else but you understand why. Let your son know that you’re leaving and he will always come first. Until you can leave and set up a house for yourself then let him live somewhere that he feels valued and appreciated.
Girl, you are sleeping in separate rooms and have lost all intimacy. What else needs to happen before you feel the right to leave?! You are worth so much more than this. Your son is worth so much more than this. It might be hard at first but you will be so much better off without him.
A year in seperate rooms and only having sex once and YOUR child no longer feels safe or happy?
Its a easy one for me LEAVE yesterday
... please put your child and self first and just leave this is not healthy and you both deserve better.
Forget the rental crisis this is not your concern, what is your concern is your childs health and saftey...who evers house this is stays who evers its not leaves and goes to stay with family or similar.