Hi Sisterhood,
You inspire me, make me cry, frustrate me and just make me so happy to be a part of this community. So many of you, like myself, have been cheated on and, from experience, it just rips your heart apart. For those of you asking questions about a cheater, I can answer from experience that yes, he is sorry.....sorry he got caught. He is a leopard, he will never change his spots, and that, at some stage, he had checked out on you. He just didn't have the guts to do the honourable thing and tell you and give you a chance of an amicable outcome. And yes, there is a fair chance that he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
But sisterhood, not all men surely are like this. Please all of you lucky partners out there, uplift our sad souls and tell us just how wonderful your fulla is. Tell us and then we may not spend our lives watching tv in our loungerooms and eating Timtams and we just might gain the courage to venture out and actually consider going on a date with a new bloke! Restore our silly teenage optimistic faith in living happily ever after!
Are there any good men out there?
Are there any good men out there?
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Yes there are great men out there. I’ve been in an extremely abusive relationship where drugs were involved on his part. Destroyed his life and took us down the rabbit hole along with him. I met an amazing man nearly 3 years ago and it’s weird because he is polar opposites of my ex. He is so caring, considerate, thoughtful, loves me for just who I am and would never try to change me. I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time and took him a year to convince me to make it official 🤣 After everything my daughter and I had been through I was very much sitting back and just observing. He has to this day given me not one of the “red flags” I was looking out for. He’s wonderful with my daughter and because of our past she definitely gave him a little curry in the beginning. He never waivered and told her how she made him feel and how he would like her to treat him going forward. He is beyond patient and has always backed me up where parenting is concerned. They do exist 100% Just a piece of advice… I was single for nearly 7 years… take the time to heal and learn what you want and NEED from a relationship. Don’t rush and if you are scared to date again you aren’t ready emotionally and that’s OK!!!
Yes there are good men out there. I was 35 when I meet my partner, however I wasted many years prior ignoring red flags. My advice is don’t ignore red flags. There won’t be red flags with good kind men. There will be calm, kindness, good communication, reliability and consistency.
I was with a narcissist for over 14 years. I walked away utterly destroyed and thought never again. A couple of years after that I was dating and any man that tried to push me into a relationship was told no.
It all changed when I had been speaking to a man for over a year and we finally went on that first date. 6 months later we were official. Another two years after that I finally took the plunge and moved in with him.
Over 5 years later I can say he is honestly the complete opposite of my ex. I thought I had recovered but part of the recovery was learning to trust a man again. He is so supportive and I am extremely lucky and so is he haha.
Yes they are out there but learn to love yourself and demand the best for yourself so that when he appears you are ready <3 You want to share a life, not lean on a man for anything
I’ve just come out of a 6-month relationship as a result of cheating and I’m devastated. He gave no explanation, didn’t even say sorry, just disappeared after months of being together. The hurt I feel is just awful and I know it’s going to take some time to recover. I’ve tried contacting him to ask for an explanation so I can get closure but there’s no response.
I’m really hopeful that one day I’ll meet my person, I just don’t think my time is now. I find dating sites just so overwhelming. I’m really happy for those who have met someone wonderful, maybe that will happen for me when the tears eventually stop.
Have been with my husband for 11 years. He cleans, he cooks, hes an amazing dad....we have our ups and downs but he's loyal to the bone.
I love him more than anything!
What I found interesting is before I met him I found I was going for guys that I had that initial "spark" with, you know that super lusty sort of spark...when I met my husband it wasn't fireworks initially, but what kept me going back to him was his kindness. Now we have the best connection ever! I think often us ladies dimiss those "nice guys" because usually they aren't the love bombers or aren't always great at putting themselves out there. Obviously a big generalization, but is common in my observations.