My son 10, has been invited to a sleep over. We allow sleep overs if I know the parents, which in this case I do. When he asked, I thought he meant at our house so i said yes.... but it's at their place.... and that is and always will be, a NO. I have not told him yet..... iv just said we will have to work it out
This child's parents are full blown addicts. I heard the rhumers, and brushed it off, until my son was invited to a birthday party.... when I showed up, they were passed out high in the bed room. I ended up very carfully, cleaning the house and getting the party ready, and I stayed the entire time while the parents looked off into space. after, I helped tidy up, and the parents were very thankful, but also, showed no issue with what had just happened. Very openly saying rehab was for the weak.
I reported to doc, they already have a massive file on them. I also told the school what I knew. Since then, the mum has been in town so off her face like a zombi, and she still has her kids minus her partner, he was made to leave.
Their children are so beautiful and well mannered. The eldest on the spectrum but also has an incredible IQ. He visits often just to hang out, and he can talk for hours about rubix cubes and biometrics. my sons friend, she's stunningly beautiful, smart, caring, athletic, sweet and so polite. She's very popular for all the right reasons. Iv taken her to school sporting events, excursions when her mothers been too off her face.
How do I explain to my son, that I'm more then happy for him to have her over to sleep, but no way in hell, is he to go there.
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You tell him the truth. That’s not a safe house, and they’re not people you trust for him to be in their care. You will only ever send him to a sleepover where you know he will be safe. Ask her to come over to yours. Also discuss privacy with him, and how to discuss it tactfully with her. Ie) say he can blame you if it’s easier to skirt it, “mums a little bit mad cos she had plans for taco night and she forgot and now she won’t let me come”
Or if she remembers the party, perhaps just be honest “mum remembers the party and won’t let me over at yours but you can come to mine”
You tell him the truth that it’s not safe and your job is to protect him and keep him safe. Maybe have the boy sleep at yours. I am a big No person to any sleep overs with my kids, even if I know them or not. I don’t feel bad. I do what it takes to keep my kids safe. Your son needs to know that it’s not safe. Maybe do a little party for your sons friend at your house just him and your son and make a cake and have him at yours.