Can you have a marriage last with no sexual attraction?
Hello, I'm just wondering if anyone is in a marriage without sexual attraction and if it still works decades on. I love my husband, he treats me extremely well, we are on the same page with the direction in which we want to do life and he is my all round best friend. However, I have never been sexually attracted to him. I am attracted to his personality but not his physical appearance. He is a very sexual person and I believe we have a healthy sex life, however I know that he would love more sex but it's hard for me to want to want it because the spark and attraction are not there. (I find both go hand in hand for me from past experiences)
Is this normal? As we grow old with one another, I just assumed appearances change and we would all lose interest on that level at some stage, but be connected by our souls. Mine had just happened in the early stages rather then the later stages of life.
Is this a common thing in a relationship? I don't want to date anyone else, nor do I think about it. I just know that I sometimes question if we are romantically involved or if we are best friends doing life together.
Can I please have peoples experiences or thoughts on this. Thank you đŸ’—
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It’s a normal part of a long term relationship I think. I hear this all the time from friends.
People grow into companions but you sound like you went out and found a companion from the start without telling him that’s what he was. I think it’s unfair on him, to not be loved the way he deserves.
"I have never been sexually attracted to him".
For me, this is a worse betrayal than cheating, you've been living a lie the whole time.
I feel so bad for your husband.
How do you do that to another human being?
I don't think it will last because relationships naturally become less intense and feelings wane, but you don't have the foundation.