Is it unfair to be called out of touch with reality and a bad person for deleting people that do not like or interact with you on social media. This happened to me even though the person hadnt interacted with me on socials or spoken to me for three years. I feel the person that threw these remarks at me is quite out of touch with reality of this is their reaction to being deleted of someone’s platform.
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I do but only if they're not in my life anymore like old work mates etc and that relationship has well and truly ended. I don't delete people that are still in my life just for not interacting with me on sm. I just see fb as keeping contact with people that are in your life I don't expect them to like everything I do but I would expect them to have a chat with me if I saw them in real life.
I think it would depend on the person. If it was one of my old aunties or uncles it wouldn't bother me, they live in another state and that generation doesn't think to "like" things, that's a very new thing. They see my photos and posts though and talk to my Mum about them. On the other hand my partners SIL added me as a friend and then must have hid me from her posts because when I looked at her profile after a year of being friends and realising I had not seen any posts from her, all there was was a few profile pictures. She was always online too liking and commenting on other people's things but not mine. So it was extremely clear then that she only added me for gossip, on my birthday post she saw that some men had commented on that and went and told my partner for whatever weird intention. She had not even said happy birthday to me herself but was quite happy to repeat what had been written. She was deleted quickly with no regrets, I have zero time for people like that and I don't even feel awkward about it when we around them.
You can do a social media clean out whenever you like. It's your business who you have on your friends' list.
Some people will feel it's a rejection and lash out. It can hurt to find you've been quietly deleted, regardless of the situation.
However, as a different perspective, I rarely post, interact, or 'like' things, but I'm often scrolling and keeping up with what people are doing. Occasionally I like posts just so people know I'm still there. It's so common it has a name - 'lurker' as opposed to a 'poster'.
I think it’s unfair.
It’s odd that they even noticed to be honest.
I’m sure I’ve been removed by people in the past, but we could still be friends I wouldn’t know unless I checked.
Different people view an unfriending/unfollow as a brutal blow, but I think they’d be in the minority.
Geezus people take all this social media crap way too far. Like who cares. Block and off and move on. There is life outside of social media. If I delete someone it’s for a reason and I don’t actually care what they think. I don’t give any of it another thought. Someone deletes me I wouldn’t even know and if they did that’s ok I don’t care. I am in my own real world living my real life and spending time with those around me not on social media. Forget it and move on.
I tend to think deleting someone simply because they don't interact via social media is a bit...passive aggressive or petty maybe?
Obviously, it's your SM profile to do what you want with and you don't owe any explanations but...
I had an old colleague who asked me why I never liked or commented on her FB posts. Firstly i never really made a concious choice to do that, I'm just not an overt social media user. And secondly, most of the time she'd already shown me the picture/meme or regaled me with whatever story she posted as a status update IN FREAKING PERSON lol. Do I really need to react to all this online as well as in real life lmao?!
Pretty sure she deleted me the second I moved on to my new job 😂
If you need that sort of constant validation and go as far as to delete people off your SM because they don't give it to you, that's probably a bit unhealthy.
So to stay on your friends list, do people have to like and comment on your posts?
Why do you need people to validate you?
I think you're out of touch with reality because sm isn't reality and they aren't "ignoring" you on there.
Lol
So a few ways I look at it but
I rarely post or interact on social media these days
But I’m still friends with people and have family
Some social media peeps can’t handle my lack of social media interaction and have said if I don’t like their posts I’m gone - ok bye - that’s petty and I am just fine without your neediness of me to feel okay - I had semi regular communication via messenger so it wasn’t like I didn’t communicate with this person - like I said petty attention seeking
I use to post but found out that a lot of people also think you have to agree on topics to be friends. What a load of bollocks. Just because I disagree with you (or more precisely you with my post when I use to post) should not mean we aren’t friends.
But that’s a real good way to weed out the petty ones - don’t let the door hit you on the way out
It boggles the mind though that some people share EVERYTHING on social media and expect people to care
I don’t give a crap to be involved in your daily drama of stupid stuff, like taking picture of a car because the owner didn’t put the trolley away. Ffs