When you feel like you don’t matter to anyone, anywhere.
I’m so afraid to ask anything, to do anything in the fear of being yelled at. I am afraid to make decisions in case I make the wrong one or let someone down. I Have no one I can confide in, no friends. I lack confidence, self esteem. How do I find myself again?
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Who are you scared of? Who yells at you? Is that a real person or a past experience? Sounds like you need professional help to get back to a healthy place.
Real & present 😞
I’m like this due to my ex. Even though we aren’t together now I found I was agreeing to all requests people put onto me for fear of letting people down or being yelled at as well.
Trauma counselling, or counselling in general helps, but I’ve had to take some risks to see that it’s not always a bad outcome. If money or finding the time to see someone is an issue, google counselling services that you can make over the phone. 1800 respect was good for me as I found they understood the complexity of my situation. I also liked the fact I never had to see the person or go back to them (or get the same person if I called at another time). This allowed me to be more honest and open that I would have been willing to do if I had to see someone face to face.
I’m still working though my trauma, but I can see looking back over the past 12months that I’m starting to find a version of myself I’m happier with.
Thank you for sharing and advise
You aren’t alone it’s an awful feeling. I would love to have all of my friends confidence. Mine comes from my mum and the way she has always treated me different to my sisters. it never leaves us. We just have to put belief in ourselves and keep telling ourselves positive things. I take one step at a time and set myself little challenges.
💞thanks for sharing
I would to love know too… I suffer severely from body image issues and am triggered immensely by women in general especially beautiful looking and physique… this is a result of my now ex husband having several affairs during the marriage.
It’s to the point I can’t really go to the beach/pool I can’t stand seeing them (even though they haven’t done anything wrong) it’s traumatising to me.. total feelings of inadequacy
This is so sad but please know that it was nothing to do with you or your body and everything about him and disrespectful
Pig of a person. It also wouldn’t be only you that he has done this too. My ex cheated and I think it’s his loss and he will never find another me. I am too good for him.
Thank you but it’s such a difficult battle
And one that I can’t get passed. I feel inadequate, unattractive, unworthy of a second glance. I have no idea how to improve my body positivity or body self worth
This is me! Whilst no cheating involved, feel totally the same as you x big love to you. thank you for sharing 💞
Realisation
You can have 0 people in your corner and be confident, or 1000000 and be totally alone.
To make mistakes is human, if you're not making mistakes you're not trying. In order to live, really live, you have to face that fear and do it any way.
Think of a small thing you'd like to do that will make you feel more capable. It could be going somewhere by yourself, doing something solo, making a decision you've put off for a very long time - then put steps in place to get yourself there. Don't see a set back as failure, it's a hurdle and you simply find your way around it until you finally win. And the final win might not look like you imagined it would, but you'll know when you get there.
Omgosh, you are right and I understand that. I do need to take that step. I feel physically ill, pain in my chest, struggle to breathe. I just implode.
Thank you for making me read what I really know deep inside 💕
Anxiety. Find what works for you.
8/10 times I can put my little calico bag of crystals chosen specifically for anxiety and positivity inside my bra near my heart, and talk myself back down.
Don't focus on what the fear feels like. It'll stop you from trying. Just imagine what that little success is going to feel like. THAT feeling is addictive. If you can get there once you will want it again and it becomes part of the drive to keep going when your mind and body betray you. You'll get there. I know you will.