Hello sisters,
I have been with my Hubby for 11 years and I can’t stand his mum and sister. I have never been accepted into the family. His mum especially has been pretty nasty over the years. I am starting to resent hubby for this even though I know it’s not his fault. I sometimes feel myself thinking about leaving lately to get away from them. I would never make him choose between me and his own mum and sister. What do I do 🙁???
Issues with my Mother and sister in law
Issues with my Mother and sister in law
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How much are they in your lives? Are they always causing trouble? That would be the decider for me, if you rarely see them then let them hate but if he's still letting them into your life regularly knowing the hate is there then that's disrespectful to you. You shouldn't need to deal with that constant energy draining toxicity and I would definitely leave to be free from that.
You don’t have to see them, or be around them. He can visit them on his own.
It’s ok to set a boundary
Tell him you want to move away or it’s over. My ex MIL was a nightmare. We moved away. I stood up to her and she hated me for it. Never spoke to her again.
Sounds like the problem is with him letting it be a problem in your marriage. you Discuss with hubby how you’re unhappy and let him know your new boundaries and expectations.
I would make him choose
My MIL and 2 sisters in law hate me and have since the beginning.
We’ve been together 22 years and at about the 10 year mark (after 3 kids) we ended up in therapy over it which helped a lot with hubby putting firm boundaries in place with them. Since he’s done that they haven’t been so bad because they see that he’s 100% committed to our family.
I say hi if I see them which has become less and less over the years and it really doesn’t bother me anymore.
Oh and get a male therapist, men relate more to other men.