I’ve been seeing this guy for about 7 months. We meet as often as our work schedules allow and talk every day on Snapchat. We’re each other’s best friend on Snapchat. Yesterday I got a random message from an ex girlfriend of his, on Facebook messenger. I’m not friends on Facebook with her and neither is he. She asked me “are you still shagging X”. I didn’t respond and I told my bloke and he told me to just block her, which I did.
Can anyone shed some light on this? I would never message a girl an ex was seeing and find this odd.
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It could be her being weird. I’d keep my eyes and ears open.
Personally I’d only ask that question if I think there was some cross over in his sexual activities.
Like him banging her as well you mean?
Yep. Or him saying things to her, and her being sus that he’s not as single as he’s making out.
Yes, but doesn’t have to be sex, could be anything that crosses a line.
I would have replied yes just to see what she had to say, now you're left wondering.
He’s probably sleeping with her too… and if you block her, like he suggests , he can have his cake and eat it too
That was my first thought too.
The disrespectful way it’s written (shagging not seeing/in a relationship with) also hints of an immature troublemaker
Or it's their language. I hate being asked about my man but it's just how some speak.
Reply to her and suss her out. She prob wants to know for a reason. Don’t be naive either not all want to shit stir.
She is quite possibly checking to see whether he's available or not, she might want to try to get him back.
I would reply "yes" and she what she has to say, but keep in mind, if she does want him back, she might just be stirring too.
I'm wary of people who only communicate via snapchat..... people who want to have no trace of convos usually do that for a reason 🤷♀️🤷♀️
She could just be starting Drama, maybe she's jealous.
If you think he's shagging other girls, and that's not ok with you, just ask him. Dont be baited by this girl because if she was coming from a place of caring she would have been like 'hey sorry to msg you but just wanted to tell you etc'
I have dated man with crazy X's. Ask yourself if your strong enough for the drama. I'm almost 10 years in, and my mental health is shot. The stalking has begun. It's not going away
A friend of mine was hooking up with a guy and he admitted after the fact he had a girlfriend my friend messaged the girlfriend so these situations happen not saying your guy is cheating but I wouldn’t have blocked without getting info first
She may have been about to disclose her relationship with him e.g. it's still going on. I would have responded with 'why are you asking me this question?'.
Turns out he was banging both of us. I messaged her back and we both found out the truth. I’m glad he won’t be playing us anymore but it still hurts something shocking.
I applaud this woman for having the courage to reach out to you and you for listening to her, rather than just blaming her for it and taking his side.
You will get over him, he did not deserve you in the first place. I was hurt when my ex cheated, then I realised he has cheated on every single person he has been with. Who wants to live with someone like that. There are way better men out there because I found one!
Glad you ditched the loser xx
The only reason I’d ask that question is if I wasn’t an ex an in fact still a gf.
The only reason I’d ask that question is if I wasn’t an ex an in fact still a gf.
How is this weird ? I mean jealous exs do this all the time. It’s weird that you say you are best friends on snapchat and you talk on snapchat. why not just talk over the phone ?
I hate talking on phone. Even to my mum. Snapchat is fun, you can send pics and yes we do have each other’s numbers