How do you guys handle that bitchy lady on the P&C! Who knows everything about everyone and bitches about everyone horrifically! Whom also seems to have significant power in school matters. To the point where her children feature in the newsletter for extra curricular activities. There are so many talented children in the school that are constantly being accepted into regional and state REP teams, children winning music and dance sections at City Sydney eisteddfods and the like etc and no mention but her child making it to the finals of a local physical culture comp seems newsworthy. I guess most parents wouldn’t self promote in that way.
The type of lady who won’t allow anyone to help organise anything but then on the day the event is a shambles because she actually hasn’t organised anything. People are leaving the P and C in droves because they can’t stand the toxicity and her need to control everything but be completely ineffective and inefficient.
Are you that lady? Do you know that lady? Do you join the cue of people and leave for peace of mind!
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Don't go on the P&C. Seriously when you reach adulthood no one gives a shit if you were on the cover of a school newsletter. Just ignore her and don't get involved for your sanity. She's not worth it. The school can deal with her.
The P&C parents have never really bothered me much and they do all the same things. I find it kind of amusing in a way.
The only time I was really irked was when they organised the grade 6 leavers dinner. It was during covid so we were lucky to even get one but due to restrictions only the P&C were allowed in the venue. It was promised that photos would be taken, which they were, but 150 out of the 200 photos taken only included the P&Fs kids and their little cliques. Some students didn't even make it into a photo!
Even the principal was annoyed in this instance.
Wear a pen cam, film her back stabbing and bitching, and put it on a projector at the next meeting. Just say "we have an issue we all need to be informed about" even if it's a fb messenger meeting.
Sorry but adult bully's need to face some humiliation to put them in their place. Bitches never stop bitching
The drama is not worth it.
I left and asked not to be involved or receive the toxic shit in my inbox. I complained to the school and when the bullying affected my son, I threatened the department of education.
Don't join and never make an offer to be friends with these women.
Oh yes! I know one of these. You will probably find that they only show photos of kids whose parents "help" the school. These people have their fingers in all the pies so they can try and get their kids special treatment and feel important in their small world. One Mum used to always complain about parents not going to meetings and would say she works and does it but she worked for her Dad at his mechanic business and could leave whenever she wanted, would always see her out and about when she was meant to be at work. Every year it was her kids in the local paper to promote the yearly fete. P+Cs are so outdated now in the world of working parents. I realise they have to still do extra fundraising but I think that instead of a p+c they could delegate the jobs to admin staff. Have an internal website for parents where they can register for volunteering. Anything that needs voting on like "do we buy a new air con or shade house" could be sent as a text and voted on. Keep the canteen run by the school not P+C.
Hahaha this has got to be someone from my kids school! We have exactly that lady.
You just have to remember that p&c and tuck shop run on volunteers and most people are busy, so it attracts people like that. Don’t for a minute think people don’t see through her, regardless of the pill she makes out she has. The photos are because it’s easy as she sends them through (probably looooots more than are shared) and that is all.
I have no idea what goes on in the P&C. I just stay away from it altogether. I've not heard of any issues, though.
It's a school leadership problem if a parent is influencing things they shouldn't and their child is getting an unfair advantage.
A bunch of tuck shop, frumpy, bat - wing arms, middle aged women... couldn't think of anything worse to be involved in
You watch too many movies
Our Parents and friends committee is made up of some truly lovely women. We do however have this lady too. And she turns off any new members and parent helpers. She seems to be all knowing, and spends a considerable amount of time bitching about other peoples children and parents. It’s amazing to watch people slowly move away from her - she doesn’t seem to get it though. She just finds new people to bitch too.
She also volunteered at the athletics carnival and then had a tantrum when her son came 5th in his race. So took it upon her self to organise the rest of the day so her son was in races he could win. It was the most bizarre behaviour.
I went to our P&C meeting only went once because of all the bitching. They also chewed up the Tuckshop lady who had only been in the position for 6weeks and then fired her within that same meeting after talking to her on Zoom and acting like it was fine but just had some teething issues which apparently was going to get sorted. Anything that was suggested was shut down and carried on as if no new comers were allowed to be involved even after they were advertising for new members and volunteers. Get out while you can just support your child's class it won't change until the mother doesn't have kids at the school.