I’ve just discovered that the man I am seeing has an addiction to online gambling.
How do I deal with this issue? I really like him but this has thrown me for 6.
I’ve just discovered that the man I am seeing has an addiction to online gambling.
How do I deal with this issue? I really like him but this has thrown me for 6.
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If he has an addiction he needs to seek treatment for it. If he won’t or isn’t getting treatment, you need to run for the hills before your relationship gets serious.
Your number one priority is looking after yourself and your children.
The chances of convincing an addict to get treatment (if they aren’t) is extremely slim, and staying in a relationship will lead you down a slippery slope!
Don't walk, run! This is the kind of thing that destroys families. I wish I had never had children to my ex as his gambling made our lives hell. No matter how often they promise to stop they rarely do!! Or they just hide it. I've also seen them swap one addiction with another. He needs long term therapy and it needs to be his choice or it will not work.
If you plan on staying with him I would suggest never moving in together or sharing anything financially.
I would end it until he seeks helps and comes back later. It’s not your problem to take on. I wouldn’t go there and especially if you have kids. Don’t do it. All these problems will become yours and theirs. No way!
You can't be that desperate, surely?
You will never be able to share lives fully or you will risk your financial stability and credit rating.
You can't knowingly pursue this, get out now before you get too attached.
Get out!! This is the whole point of seeing someone. It takes time to get to know under the facade they can put up at the start. When you scratch and this is what you find, you bow out!
You run and don’t look back. While it’s good he has been honest this is not your problem. He should have fixed this before meeting you. Don’t go there.
How did you discover this Exactly? Don’t Go any further with him. Don’t involve kids if you have any. Find someone else.
You leave
I grew up with a parent who had a gambling addiction. It affected our family so badly that as an adult I won't even date someone who enjoys a bit of casual gambling - it's a straight up deal breaker for me!
Trust me, this man will ruin your life if given the chance.
He's not your project, you can't fix this.
Sadly, you don't deal with it. Only he can deal with it, and only if he wants to 🤷♀️ like every addiction.
If you really like him and he treats you well, you can keep casually dating hin forever, if you want.
But don't ever move in with him, or plan for kids or the white picket fence. That's 100% setting yourself up for disaster.
Did he tell you that himself?
I would get out while you can my partner of 15 years has a gambling problem and its basically ruined our lives even after counseling hes never changed. The lies and deciet has basically ruined everything im ready to leave 15 years hoping for someone to change is too long! I also think he has a drinking problem you will never get the truth anyway all they do is lie.
My ex was a gambling addict and he left me in financial ruin. I found out when dating, I should have run away
Even if they are in "remission" they can slip at any time. I would never put myself through that hell again