I have pelvic congestion syndrome since having our 3rd child 4 years ago. It causes constant bad throbbing pain, like my left ovary is going to explode! It makes me grumpy, and often wakes me at night. My husband of 12yrs wants to have sex 3-4 times per week, but I just have no desire knowing the aching afterwards will be terrible. He just doesn’t get it, and thinks I am deliberately not interested in him or his penis is too small… but it’s nothing to do with it. Just the feeling of a bad period all day everyday takes its toll I guess.
Anyone else been in this situation?
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Ohhh sheesh… I have no idea what the treatment would be and if you are following up with the Dr. (If not please do and explore all your options). All good and well to say that your “husband has needs” but this is a medical condition and while suffering you should not at all be concerned that he will leave or cheat on you! Far out… I’d expect that he would support you and be patient through this somewhat.
How awful.
If it feels like period pain type pain have you tried period pain painkillers?
Not as a fix, still explore treatment options but might give a little relief in the short term?
You do not have to put up with constant pain. See a gynecologist for treatment options and seek a second opinion if you are not happy with the responses you get from your regular gyno. Give you hubby some reading material about this condition so that he understands it's not a lack of interest but the fear of pain.
I have endometriosis and had same problem when I was with my ex, caused a lot of issues in our relationship. since leaving him I found out I also had pelvic congestion syndrome which now makes a lot of sense. I saw a vascular surgeon and had a procedure to fix the pelvic congestion. I highly recommend doing it as it can alleviate the painful periods and painful sex. I have health insurance so it cost nothing. It’s a 40 minute procedure. But you need to see a vascular surgeon that specializes in that sort of thing.
Did it help? Was it embolisation? I got no relief from mine. I do suspect they missed a compression somewhere though.
I have pelvic congestion syndrome too and it's awful. I've had some treatment for it but it didn't help. Be wary of doctors who say that it can be cured or that the pain is in your head. I take prescription painkillers for it and it helps a lot. It has helped me with sex as well. Sometimes the thought of sex can be off-putting because of the pain, but I have noticed that it seems to move the blood through the pelvis a bit better after sex. Maybe speak to your doctor about it. Some doctors are shit though and some refuse to believe that PCS is an actual condition. It's debilitating. The pain is constant, throbbing and intense. Medication has helped me to be able to live my life in the way I want to. I still get pain, but the meds help it a lot!
Not really helpful but ask him it he would like one of his testicles to be in throbbing pain after each time you have sex.
Tell him that is exactly how it feels for you.