At a mediation session recently I gave a draft parenting order to my ex for consideration.
It’s like for like so no parent is worse off.
I’d just like our verbal agreements made legal and court ordered as he likes to change the rules on our agreements about the kids, when it suits him.
I have this week asked again about doing a parenting order and he replied “no”
He doesn’t like rules.
If it’s like for like and no parent is better off than the other can I get a parenting order done without him?
Thanks
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Yes. Mediation will advise you on how to move forward with it
Parenting orders aren't legally binding.
If he won't agree to specific dates and equity etc, then you can just say no if he wants to change verbal agreements at the last minute, if it's inconvenient for you.
I mean, I have a friend who's happy to go 50/50 etc, but the father just wants to be able to message at 10pm and say "picking the kids up tomorrow, I'll bring them back Wed or Thurs next week"
And she's had to put her foot down. Not because she's withholding them, she isn't - but how is she supposed to organise her job, school, daycare, work etc like that?
So she's said he either comes to a permanent arrangement via PP, or give a week written notice.
He also doesn't like rules & only wants to take the kids when he has nothing better to do.
And then you think of all the Dads our there who have to fight so hard to see their kids at all, and the kids get withheld, and they have to go to court etc - and here's two women literally saying "have them any time, just make it regular". Such childish bullshit.