Hi every one,
I’ll try to make this short. I’m at a loss. My partner and I have two kids together we have been together for 8 years and it’s honestly just been a roller coaster the entire time. I have just had enough I’m over the way I am treated and the lack of respect and I’m at a point where I am just so angry. He is an on and off addict of multiple things and has bad mental health. I hold the family together constantly and continue to just get excuse after excuse from him every time I say I think we should seperate something happens and I stay. I don’t think I want to be here doing this any more but for some reason just can’t get myself to actually make the steps happen officially. I am so frustrated I just end up crying . I’m not sad at all anymore but I think if I didn’t cry I would lose my tether in another way. I just don’t even know what I’m asking. I’m just at my wits end. Anyone been here and maybe has some advice? What was your final straw how did you do it without the guilt. Please help
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Yes you have to stop putting excuses in front of you and make the move to be free of it. You only get one life and you should be making the most of it, not sitting there being unhappy. Put things in place and go. It’s your time to shine. The guilt passes after a few months. You just have to stick with it and persevere and you won’t look back. Life is so precious. Don’t waste it living like this.
Just take that first step and the rest will follow. I agree with other comment re only having one life. I have lost family members and I am even more determined to never waste that much of my life being miserable ever again. For me it was definitely taking that first step. Kids survived and they finally got a happy mum.
Mate, anyone else's final straw doesn't matter at all. You've reached yours, it's why you're here now.
We're conditioned to fear perceived guilt. Ask yourself why you feel guilty?
For breaking up the kids family? What you're doing now is teaching your kids very unhealthy. Teach them what self respect looks like, what a happy mum looks like.
For giving up on him? Where will he go, what will he do? Not your problem. He's given up on you, he chooses himself every time. He is the master of his destiny and if he drives that into a ditch that's on him.
You've pulled the pin before. This time when "something else happens", say fuck it. This is what's happening and I don't care about anything else right now.
Do you want your kids to think this behaviour from you or him is normal? Break the cycle. You are strong, you are smart, you are worthy! Stand up , walk with your head high and give you and the kids a safe and healthy home