Hello lovely people.
My 15 year old daughter recently got a part time job. She's saving close to 90% of her pay.
We (parents) are happy to pay for her day to day needs (shampoo, conditioner, soap etc).
But she is very much into make up. I believe know that she is working she should be buying her own.
She no longer wants the brands that I would buy, she wants the more expensive stuff.
I've told her she needs to start buying her own make-up. She thinks we should pay.
We already do tinting and waxing at home. There are 2 younger sister's. So this could get crazy expensive.
This is a place where women from different backgrounds, cultures and beliefs come together to support one another judgement free.
8 Replies
At 15 with a job, it's a great time to learn: you want it, you buy it! She has no other expenses. Buying this luxury herself will help her to think about how much she wants it and to budget accordingly.
Nope. This is a no brainer and this is exactly what her money should be going on at her age. You pay for her needs, she pays for her wants. She won't learn how to budget if she has you buying everything for her.
Just don’t buy it for her. If she wants it that bad she can buy it herself.
What is she going to do if you don’t buy it for her? She needs to learn to be responsible for her own wants. Whilst she is a child living under your roof you MUST supply things she needs. This is not a need.
I’d honestly stop the tinting and waxing too, she can learn to support her own habits.
If she wants the luxuries she pays
If she wants you to buy her make up then she wears what you buy. If she wants a different brand then she buys it herself. Simple as that.
That's what her working is for. Extra luxuries she can buy herself . She needs to be grateful b4 the real adult bills start coming in
I’ll always pay for medical/dental anything like that. Clothing/shoes/makeup etc if I buy it’ll be bday/Xmas gifts and she’s picked them. Other wise she buys her own makeup as my daughter likes expensive brands too. And it definitely teaches them you ain’t made of money. The harder you work the more you get .
Time to teach financial independence, Anything over and above is her cost, or needs to wait till christmas or birthday. She will hate it as her wages won't go far but might also create appreciation of how hard people work for this stuff. My 16yr old pays for his own outings, and anything over the norm. If you don't teach this now she will forever expelling to cover stuff. Tough love.