Am I wrong? My baby’s dad owe a car loan 4000$ so I offered to pay part of it that way we can travel together however I asked for a receipt twice for transparency but his response now has made me so uncomfortable bc we supposed to be building trust and open to each other. Did I do wrong
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Why do you need to pay part of it to be able to travel in it? $4000 for a car is actually very cheap, let him pay for it himself and just contribute to fuel if you aren't sharing finances and he's driving you around. If you have spare money try saving for your own car.
The wording is confusing but I think what OP meant is that she helped or try to help relieve some of the financial burden so they could go travelling. Not so that she could travel in the car.
Are you actually together? Because it sounds to me like he won't give you a receipt so you have no claim on it.
If you're not together (which is what it sounds like), I think giving him the money was a very bad idea & you can kiss it (and the car) goodbye.
If the loan and the car are in his name it doesn't matter if you paid part of it, or if he gives you a receipt. In the eyes of the law it's his car and you don't own a "share" of it.
Never pay capital money towards someone else's asset. Only to use that asset if needed.
Yes get a receipt so you know where your money went.! Big risk lending him money by the sounds of it. Please be strong and stand up for yourself and tell him, if he wants the money to come from you then you would like a receipt. Why wouldn’t you? He could go and spend it on drugs, Alcohol, gambling or what ever. No saying he’s any of these but if he was, the money will be blown else where. You need this money, you are raising his child, so he should understand that, if he doesn’t then he needs to grow up.
You don’t need a receipt you need a written contract where he’s agreed to pay you back for it. Even just getting him to agree to it by text message is enough for you to make a claim if he doesn’t pay.
Nothing with money works on ‘trust’ don’t be taken advantage of. A trustworthy person has no qualms doing it by the book.
Do you mean just like a receipt that he's written himself that says what you paid? Because I don't know how that could be helpful to you at all, it won't be worth the paper it's on. It won't provide transparency. If you just want proof you paid it you should have sent it by bank transfer.