Good Afternoon,
For those of you with partners that are stepfathers to your kids, how much does your partner involve himself in family chores and decisions? And, do they show up for important events and show interest in the kids?
Good Afternoon,
For those of you with partners that are stepfathers to your kids, how much does your partner involve himself in family chores and decisions? And, do they show up for important events and show interest in the kids?
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I had a stepmum and stepdad growing up. I lived with my stepdad and he attended everything despite the fact he and I REALLY didn't get along. My stepmum didn't attend anything. I was an extra person every second weekend
I'm a stepparent and I attend everything. I have actually attended more school functions than the bio parents but then again, I have a fantastic relationship with my stepkids, due to their biological parents really encouraging a good relationship between us all.
Showing up for important events and likes spending time with my kids is the bare basic requirement for having a long term relationship with me.
That doesn’t mean taking over all the parenting or even half of it. But they do need to enjoy being around my kids, attend events and pitch in.
I'm a full time step mum. I do 90% of the paranting. I do all Dr appointments, school events, Centrelink, sports, I even enrolled them in school with out him, or his signatures. Infact, iv never needed his signature for anything.
Let him do what he feels comfortable with. I do so much because bio mum is a drug fucked cum bag who is a show and tell mum for attention, and who has chosen to never be around. Yes I have nasty things to say about her..... Naught me, and no I don't talk that way around the kids
Step-parent here and partner is a step parent. He is amazing but I think I found one in a million. Helps with all chores around the house without me saying a word. I talk to him and he is unwaveringly supportive without pushing his opinion on to me. He will discuss if he thinks I am being too hard or lenient (more likely) but will still allow me to parent. He does not parent my children and I do not parent his. We are a team and only step in if it's absolutely necessary e.g. a teen yelling at me and he says enough if it keeps going. Very rare, only happened once. He has shown up again and again. Took kids out to lunch while I worked. Picks them up from school sometimes. Would attend things if asked. I do the same for his. I keep waiting for the honeymoon to end but over 5 years and he is still the same. Like I said one in a million 🥰
We are blended and I make decisions for mine, he makes decisions for his. We both go to important things like birthdays, graduations etc and we both get along with each other's kids and show an interest in what they're doing. My kids Dad isn't in their lives so partner is more involved with my kids than I am with his.