Feeling stuck/trapped in my relationship

I’m struggling with me relationship, been with my partner 5 years, he comes and goes as he pleases on the weekends, only asks me to go for a drive when my daughter is at my mothers house, then he will take me and our son to his parents/brothers etc, will only ask us all to go when we have his daughter. I work from home with my own little business and he works full time, always talks about what he wants for his future, his future is for him and I, none of his plans involve the kids (we have 3 between us) he has his house plans in his mind all laid out and that’s what he will one day own, has no interest in my input because he is the worker so it’s his say so, he only pays for food and the occasional water bill, I pay rent, power, kids clothes, dr appts, school activities, holidays etc. he think I’m all for his money when I mention bills, he tells me I’m not independent enough and should of stuck to driving because my mum is in my life too much and he thinks he is a third wheel, I have anxiety and when I drive or become in a situation I don’t like my vision literally goes white I see nothing for a minute or so, or I turn to jelly and lose weakness in my arms and legs, I don’t want to be pushed into doing something I know I shouldn’t be doing. He blames my mum a lot for being in my life too much and that I never want to “move away from mummy”, she has young foster kids so we get together in school holidays etc for the kids. He hates that I have anything to do with my family actually, he will deny that but it’s true. I’ve tried to get him to be more involved with his family but they are all stubborn and like to stay home so they wait for him to go there. When he was with his ex wife he had his mother travel to them and basically stay and watch/help with their newborn for a week or 2 at a time, that went on for 2 years until they separated, yet he hates my mother helping me when I need to go to appts, makes no sense, he is always the first to know when I’m making appts etc it’s not like he is the last to know and will often say I’ll have to ask my mum to take me because he never gets time off work. I just feel stuck and don’t know how to handle this situation, things have been this way for so long and I’ve actually had a few posts in this group and you’ve told me to leave, I just worry about my son only being 4 and he is a child that is so full on and also relies heavily on routine. I told him I won’t move away until the kids are done school so that has him wondering why he is here if I won’t move and only want to prioritise the kids. I mostly don’t want to feel trapped if I did move away outside of a town area with no license that I am exactly where he wants me to be, at home with no family or friends. Sorry it’s long I think I mostly just needed a vent and to write it all down, thank you if you got this far x