Lost .....
My husband and I have been married for many years, I have kids from a previous relationship and we have kids together.... they all adore him
But I can’t stand the way he talks.... if he wants something he is nice as pie, but if not, it’s nasty comments and rude. If we talk about something and he doesn’t like it he spins it all onto me. I have asked him to stop blaming and directing everything toward me and being so rude and yelling but he stops talking and walks away... the next day starts off all great while he is at work and bang as soon as he is home and one thing isn’t how he wants to hear or see it it all starts again....
he will do anything easily for everyone. But when it comes to us he is moody and cranky until we are around others... I just don’t know what to do or if I can even handle it anymore, I have asked him or us to do counciling but he refuses.
It’s been like this for years is it time to just walk... how the hell do I do that now with young adults and small children who all think the sun shines out of him!!!
Try or walk away
Try or walk away
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Pack them up with your belongings and leave. It may be enough to scare him into change. Don’t go back until he gets counciling or proves he is willing to try and change. See if you can stay with family or friends for a while.
That’s the hardest thing to do.... I don’t have anyone to go and stay with
And even packing his bag myself , he won’t go
If he won't go to counselling, go yourself. You are describing verbal abuse, and you don't have to put up with it. Call 1800RESPECT, they will have great advice & support for you.
As to "oh but he won't leave" - bollocks. Don't give hin the choice. If you're done, then tell him you're done, it's over, and he needs to leave.
If he starts yelling and screaming at you, call police.
Thanks I will give them a call next week when none of the kids are around....
I have chatted to him today and decided to seperate, he can stay in the other room and if he chooses to seek help for the way he is being we can move forward... slowly... if not, this will become more permanent and I will go with the kids, and I am not going to let him pick arguments and will not bite back to comments, will see how the next few weeks go