Why do ex partners turn so nasty post separation, she cheated on me and is now living with him. But why have they turned so nasty towards me,
I didn’t do anything wrong
Why do ex partners turn so nasty post separation, she cheated on me and is now living with him. But why have they turned so nasty towards me,
I didn’t do anything wrong
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Because they like to deflect and make you feel like the bad guy and even look like the bad guy to justify their own actions and take the attention away from them and what they have done. Happens all the time, my ex did it to me after years of abuse from him and him eventually cheating on me with a teenager and leaving me for her, he and his family immediately made every little thing I did into something bad and bad mouthed me to whoever will listen. My current partners ex did the same to him even though she left him and their 3 kids to live a party life and not support them, he was the one that had has name dragged through the mud by her. The only thing to do is hold your head high, don't let yourself be a door mat to their behaviour and anyone that wants to listen to her bullshit isn't worthy of any energy from you anyway. Focus on yourself and your kids if you have them.
Deflecting! They don’t want others to know so they deflect and turn it to you. Just move on and be the better person. Best revenge is to move on and show them how happy you are now. They’ll find it how happy you are through others.let them see it!
Like everyone else said - deflection.
My ex is the same. I chose to end the relationship for very personal reason which to this day (7 years later) I’ve only disclosed to close family or friends.
He in turn told everyone I cheated with you to 3 guys (I didn’t cheat at all) and the end of all his relationship (all 26 of them) has somehow been related to me or our kids and nothing to do with himself or the other GFs….
I’ve only had 1 relationship in this whole time, which has also ended now, but my first ex chooses to use this relationship as ‘evidence’ of what a crappy mother I am 🤦🏻♀️
I just choose to focus on the people that care about me and know the truth.
She probably spun a tone of lied to him, to justify her cheating. Just ignore it.... She will likely do the same to him
Deflection and projection. Just ignore them otherwise you risk continuing the toxic behaviour. And honestly, who gives a shit what they think lol those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter 👍
I’m going through the same.
My ex (recently separated, together over a decade), posts FB statuses about me (never naming me, and they’re usually subtle), but hides me from them. (We still live together and are FB friends.)
I have family that show me what he’s written, and it’s just because they’re sad and miserable with their own lives, that they have to try and belittle you for their own gain.
It makes them feel better.
I have don’t nothing and post nothing about my ex, but he sees me finally making friendships and talking to others, whereas before, all we had was each other.
He treats me like absolute 💩 and drinks his problems away, whilst I am actually trying to enjoy my life for the first time in what feels like forever.
They also know that they had it so much better with you, so try to make you react with their hurtful words etc, so you look like the crazy ex. Don’t fall for it.
Just smile and wave. Don’t stoop to their level.