I've had a bunch of friends meet partners on eharmony - eventually.
They all had numerous dates that didn't go anywhere, but that's just life.
I think the biggest thing is you need be honest about yourself - no pics from 10 years & 15kg ago; don't say you LOVE travelling if you've never been out of your own state; don't say you're willing to take on their kids if you only mean every second Sunday.
And be honest about what you're looking for, short and long term. If you won't date a man under 6ft, or with kids, or of a large size, or with no job - say so.
Don't say "I just want to meet fun people and get out a bit more" if you're the sort that will take one look at a guy and walk away (in that case, head for tinder).
Chat with them for awhile before meeting up, and always meet in a public place.
I didn't use e harmony, I found it to be too specific. I knew that my Mr Right was not going to be at the end of a form of ticked boxes because when you click with someone you just click it doesn't matter how much you have in common or anything else. I used POF, a down to earth short and sweet bio, a real, unedited, unsexy photo of just my face (this weeds out most of the guys that are just wanting something to wank to or after sex). I chatted to guys for at least a few weeks before meeting in person. I met my partner on there we clicked straight away and still together 6 years later, you just have to know how to weed the good from the bad! Someone that's interested in a possible future with you will ask questions about you, what you like, your past, your family, your kids, your job (over a time not bombard you with personal questions straight away). Someone that's not interested in you long term will keep the conversation about the "now" won't show an interest in your life and will keep pushing to meet up. That's why it's good to wait to meet up because these guys get sick of waiting and move on.
I met my man on Bumble after a couple of months of being on & off there and tinder. I would get really sick of looking sometimes. No idea about e-harmony, although I’d probably have tried it if I wanted something super specific, but I was open to lots of different scenarios, so it didn’t matter too much. If you’re into astrology at all, it can be a way of self-filtering out someone who you may like the look of, but actually wouldn’t be astrologically compatible.
I met mine on POF, messaged for over a year before meeting. Now going on over 5 years. I had to sift through a whole lot of players and men that just were not the right one. I will never regret it, best relationship I have ever been in. Found eharmony was a bit too full on and met some unusual and somewhat obsessive men on there..
Just stumbled upon this post & such a relief knowing I’m not on my own here. Been on & off dating sites (mostly Bumble, POF, Tinder & even paid for eHarmony once). Keep telling myself, all guys are just selfish knobs looking for a root & end up vowing “never again!” But I’m a glutton for punishment & keep going back… hoping 🙏🤞😔
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I've had a bunch of friends meet partners on eharmony - eventually.
They all had numerous dates that didn't go anywhere, but that's just life.
I think the biggest thing is you need be honest about yourself - no pics from 10 years & 15kg ago; don't say you LOVE travelling if you've never been out of your own state; don't say you're willing to take on their kids if you only mean every second Sunday.
And be honest about what you're looking for, short and long term. If you won't date a man under 6ft, or with kids, or of a large size, or with no job - say so.
Don't say "I just want to meet fun people and get out a bit more" if you're the sort that will take one look at a guy and walk away (in that case, head for tinder).
Chat with them for awhile before meeting up, and always meet in a public place.
I didn't use e harmony, I found it to be too specific. I knew that my Mr Right was not going to be at the end of a form of ticked boxes because when you click with someone you just click it doesn't matter how much you have in common or anything else. I used POF, a down to earth short and sweet bio, a real, unedited, unsexy photo of just my face (this weeds out most of the guys that are just wanting something to wank to or after sex). I chatted to guys for at least a few weeks before meeting in person. I met my partner on there we clicked straight away and still together 6 years later, you just have to know how to weed the good from the bad! Someone that's interested in a possible future with you will ask questions about you, what you like, your past, your family, your kids, your job (over a time not bombard you with personal questions straight away). Someone that's not interested in you long term will keep the conversation about the "now" won't show an interest in your life and will keep pushing to meet up. That's why it's good to wait to meet up because these guys get sick of waiting and move on.
I met my man in 2018 on POF too. We're getting married in just over a week!
Congratulations! So there’s hope for this 63yo granny yet!?? 🙏
Another happy POF one here too! 🥰
I met my man on Bumble after a couple of months of being on & off there and tinder. I would get really sick of looking sometimes. No idea about e-harmony, although I’d probably have tried it if I wanted something super specific, but I was open to lots of different scenarios, so it didn’t matter too much. If you’re into astrology at all, it can be a way of self-filtering out someone who you may like the look of, but actually wouldn’t be astrologically compatible.
I met mine on POF, messaged for over a year before meeting. Now going on over 5 years. I had to sift through a whole lot of players and men that just were not the right one. I will never regret it, best relationship I have ever been in. Found eharmony was a bit too full on and met some unusual and somewhat obsessive men on there..
I would say no, they didn’t match me with anyone I would even consider dating!
Just stumbled upon this post & such a relief knowing I’m not on my own here. Been on & off dating sites (mostly Bumble, POF, Tinder & even paid for eHarmony once). Keep telling myself, all guys are just selfish knobs looking for a root & end up vowing “never again!” But I’m a glutton for punishment & keep going back… hoping 🙏🤞😔