How do you start the seperation process?
We rent, have 3 children and pets. Been together 18 years.
My partner got in touch with an ex over FB about 3 years ago. It started to get emotional so I said no more. I don't think the connection ever stopped and our relationship went downhill from there. About 5mths ago they connected again and the last msg I saw was 'I can't wait to be together'. I confronted him and said no more (again) but my trust had gone. Just realised he's been talking and msg her again and I've said that's enough. I'm done.
My heart can't take anymore.
Now I need to think about moving, money all that stuff. I don't know where to start. We don't have savings, rent price's are crazy. I've never had to do this obviously. Any help would be appreciated. Thankyou.
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Sorry you are going through this 😔 Ultimately it would be best and easier if he leaves but mine refused. I would suggest this in the first instance and try to keep it amicable even though you are hurting. Depending on your circumstances I would suggest speaking to Dept of Housing even about bond assistance. Speak to a Centrelink social worker as sometimes you may be able to live separated under the same roof until you can get out which will give you some assistance until you can afford it. May be a little stringent on circumstances though. You do not have to tolerate his behaviour at all and again it would be better for everyone if he left ((hugs))
Thankyou so much. What I'm finding hard is he thinks he's done nothing wrong!. I'll definitely be amicable. We are both unhappy. I will look at all options of Centrelink. Make sure the kids have two safe homes. Thankyou for your reply x
I am wondering if his response in the past has been to tell you or suggest its 'all in your head'. He could be gaslighting you rather than taking ownership. I know it's hard to be strong when you're hurting. I did not leave right away, it took counselling and building my strength up and then I followed through but then I was in an emotionally and financially abusive relationship. The only regret I have is that I did not leave sooner. Take care of you and use any supports you can find. Strongly suggest skipping straight to social worker at Centrelink and not just someone on the desk <3