How do I bring up the subject of bill splitting with my partner without offending him?
Backstory…..I have 2 kids week on week off. He has two teenagers who live with us fulltime and another that is over every second weekend.
I pay for 90% of food, half of power, all of paid tv apps, all maintenance on home. I do own my own home so no rent but I do pay full rates.
Constantly eating into my savings whereas partner is buying his kids new things all the time.
He says I earn More? Been living together for 8 months now and has gotten worse
Groceries alone cost me $480 per week
Bill splitting
Bill splitting
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Have you asked him to pay 50/50 of everything? If you have and he's still not pulling his weight then sorry but it sounds like he's taking you for a ride. I would stop paying internet and tv and cut the food down to essentials only I'm sure he will get the message then.
I have yes. He used to help with bills but now doesn’t. He says that I earn more and he has more kids to pay for. He will occasionally do shopping but he only gets a few things to last a few days.
That's crazy. Yes he has more kids which means higher bills and bigger food bill, he should be paying up. I would really cut back on everything!
Thank you for your advice. Whenever I bring the subject up he tells me I’m motivated by money
He's just one big red flag hunni
When it comes to bill splitting, it's about fairness.
Yes I can understand some like TV subscriptions etc if it's something you'd have anyway, and maintenance on your home (you have spoken to a solicitor about the legalities?) but why the fuck is he not paying to feed his own kids? You're being treated like a meal ticket.
This guy is living the dream. Free food, free rent, free TV. He’s hit the jackpot. Probably should have had these discussions before moving in, but def not too late to kick his tight ass to the curb.
My partner works, so he covers most bills. He pays rent, elec, most food. Rego, car repairs, some clothing, and any must have we may need.
I pay water, internet, buy most of the clothing. I cover all TV subscriptions, and kids sports. I put in for some food.
We pay our own phone bills, and any other things we want.
We didn't talk about this at all. It kind of just happened
I would be very very careful having this guy living in your home. Be very careful what you ask him to pay for because if he pays towards the house he can claim rights to it. You really need to cover yourself.
On the flip side you’re running your home regardless whether he’s there or not. However the onus is on his to make it worth your while in having him move in. You’re a single mum, having good money or not, I’m sure you need it for your kids and your life, you don’t need to spend it supporting other people and their kids.
It does not matter if he pays towards the house - cleaning and general maintenance counts. Depending on your state laws, after 2 years you are considered defacto and he is entitled to half of the house.
If there is no agreement about expenses then you do not have a partnership and I would ask him to move out while the issues are sorted and if the relationship is worth saving then counselling and making sure your values align is important. It sounds like you've worked hard for all you have.