I'm having a lot of issues with my 13 year old daughter and I'd like some advice. She started high school this year
- caught vaping
- been in a physical fight with another girl at school
- wagged some lessons at school
- her marks have gone from A's & B's to a lot of D's
When I try to talk to her she rolls her eyes and talks back at me.
I don't know how to get through to her and have her realise the consequences of all this.
Help for 13yr old daughter
Help for 13yr old daughter
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I would get her some mental health support. Kids usually don’t go of the rails suddenly for no reason. She needs someone to talk to, and she is taking lots of risks and not valuing herself very much.
I'd be wondering what is going on in her life that is making her act out.
I was a shitty kid similar to this when I first started highschool.
The reason? I was being bullied nd sexually assaulted in front of my classmates on a bus home from school daily. I became very lonely (new school) and had no friends.
Because I was a little shit and my Mom was not interested in parenting her problem child, things got progressively worse.
I am now an adult and do believe my mother let me down because she didn't like me as a person. No saying that's you, but if you don't like someone, you don't really give a crape what happens to them right?
I have told her how she has failed me and where she could have intervened.
I would take a huge interest in her life and her environment. If things are happening at school, that's ground zero. If she was successful at school before highschool, then that stopped once she changed schools, then there's a pretty good chance that's the reason with multiple facets to it.
Talk to all her teachers and ask about her friendship groups.
Guaranteed that you will find the problem there and on any social media/internet/gaming platform she accesses.
Remove those issues and redirect her to more constructive and structured environments and you're going to save your daughter.
There's a book called "Reviving Ophelia" by Mary Pipher. It was written in 1994. I read it in 1994 and I could identify several components to it as I was 14 at the time myself. I'd like to think as a mother, reading this would help identify my daughters realities she faces even in 2022.
Get some intervention before you loose her.
Goodluck, I wish you nothing but success.